I am 21, and at this point in my life just want to have fun and be free. I don't understand why everyone's so obsessed with having a significant other. I had a boyfriend two years ago, for a year, he asked me to marry him, I broke up. My lack of interest in relationships is caused by a mixture of not having a need for emotional connection, my need for independence, getting bored by routine (seeing the same person wake up next to me everyday, aaaggh), need for freedom etc. Being in a relationship means being responsible for the things you say and do, having to do things for others bla bla bla, having to answer to someone. I'd feel claustrophobic. The cons outweigh the pros. What even are the pros? I still don't know. Thank God most of my friends are like me. Young, wild and FREE
Don't take the good times for granted! You may think "you have all the time in the world" -- but time flies like an arrow. (Fruit flies, on the other hand, like a banana.)
Once you reach the overripe old age of 30, you might not have as many suitors to choose from: some will have gotten married, some will have tried for marriage, gotten burned, and dropped out altogether;
and many of those who are still left, will either be picked-over remnants, or have baggage. The hot older guys who are so much fun now? Notice they're looking at YOU...now. When you reach their age, the guys that age will still be looking at younger women...the women who are your CURRENT age.
The good part of being married (choose *carefully*!!!) is KNOWING someone who has your back through the ups and downs, good times and bad, who is committed to you and your well-being.
And when you get a little older -- all of a sudden, when you look back, the "fun times" will seem a blur, and pointless.
The "hot guys" for fun & dating -- don't always have what it takes to be a good husband. But if you get too used to living it up with hot guys now, then, if you marry a "steady Freddy" later, he'll seem boring.
And having to live a responsible life will seem boring too. But if you marry young, and build a life together -- you get the best of both worlds...and for keeps.
The key to separating out the "good catches" from the douchebags? The "good catch" will want to spend *TIME* with you.
And, NO, I'm not a bitter dweeb living in his parents' basement. I got married at 22, and I'm still married to her at 50. I never have to worry about where my next lay is coming from.
And she's ALL MINE.
There's more than one route through life!