Kheledon
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Blogged for my own convenience as a useful series of quotes regarding "emotional instability" in the ENFj.
We come across much better in person. I even announced in my intro. thread on this forum that, in writing, I come across quite differently.
Here's what I can tell you. In ten years of practicing law, there have only been two potential clients that I have ever met who didn't want to hire me. That said, there were quite a few for whom I did not want, nor could I in good conscience, work for. I had to turn them down and, instead, recommended other attorneys who might be able to help them, but a healthy, Fe dom, ENFj is powerful in person. We are noted for a chameleon-like ability to adjust our emotional presentation to be whatever it is we sense you need us to be at a given moment. We can also make you feel great abut yourself (if we want to).
It's a mixed blessing (being emotionally unstable).
More below.
We come across much better in person. I even announced in my intro. thread on this forum that, in writing, I come across quite differently.
Here's what I can tell you. In ten years of practicing law, there have only been two potential clients that I have ever met who didn't want to hire me. That said, there were quite a few for whom I did not want, nor could I in good conscience, work for. I had to turn them down and, instead, recommended other attorneys who might be able to help them, but a healthy, Fe dom, ENFj is powerful in person. We are noted for a chameleon-like ability to adjust our emotional presentation to be whatever it is we sense you need us to be at a given moment. We can also make you feel great abut yourself (if we want to).
It's a mixed blessing (being emotionally unstable).
Are internally emotional, but usually modest and constrained in their emotional expression. Sensitive and vulnerable, alone in a shower may often experience dramatic emotions, but in front of strangers they restrain themselves. Find it difficult to relax due to internal strains, wounds, and overarching ambitions; while internally suffering from a set of complexes, externally they appear proud and aloof.
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Very inquisitive and talkative; emotional enough to be impressionable. Internally intense/strained, frequently they doubt their decisions. Emotionally liberated and artistic, they easily express their feelings. Aware of the moods of others and are skilled in positively manipulating them. Speaks with feelings and enthusiasm, yet prone to irony and criticisms they sometimes project a venomous and haughty image.
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Predisposed to reflection, internal fluctuations and doubts.
Socionics Types: EIE-ENFj Subtypes
The ethical subtype is internally very emotional, but usually modest and restrained in expression of his feelings. Unobtrusive in conversation, tries to behave according to the rules of good tone and manners. Vulnerable and easily takes offense. In his heart and soul he often experiences dramatic emotions, but around strangers hides and tries to control them. It is difficult for him to truly relax, inside he is tense and high-strung, vulnerable and quite self-loving.
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Has difficulty attaining an inner balance. Due to this, is often in suppressed mood. Overly suspicious, prone to seeing dangers, proud.
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Feels constant inner emotional tension. Needs to periodically spill out accumulated emotions.
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Knows how to beautifully express his feelings. Very sensitively feels his failures and disappointments.
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Socionics - the16types.info - Socionics Type Subtype Descriptions by V. Meged, A. Ovcharov, and V. Gulenko
Oversees and manages a very wide range of emotional states. Dramatic emotions quickly turn into comic ones or interweave together, however, around strangers and unfamiliar people can behave calmly and with dignity. Endowed with the gift of emotional empathy, can experience the emotions of another person as if they were his own. Expressive in gestures, gaze, intonation, and other emotional cues. A good actor or speaker. Continually reinvents and reincarnates himself in some style.
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People in his proximity may experience difficulty dealing with his emotional pressuring. He cannot find peace and serenity himself; overflows of negative emotions often lead to mental breakdowns.
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Over time, his worldviews may change to something diametrically opposite of what he has previously conceived. Jedi-Sith-Jedi, i.e. Anakin Skywalker - Added by @Kheledon
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By temperament impatient and restless. Sitting in one place for a long time can even lead to muscle spasms. Finds it difficult to relax even when he is sleeping.
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Has difficulty getting rid of bad habits.
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Estimates attitudes of others by how much they are willing to do for him and how tolerant they are of his strange tastes and habits. Does not feel well in confined spaces. May choose the life of a recluse. @Cellmold perhaps? - Added by @Kheledon
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He is quick to take offense and can be vindictive.
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Has much difficulty achieving inner balance. Inclined to over-dramatize events. Self-immolating, vulnerable, pays close attention to attitudes of others toward himself, transgressions remembers for a long time.
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The representative of this sociotype lives via an inner struggle of emotions which from time to time tend to splash out. For others these violent outbursts can be unexpected. Such people are often gifted with oratorical talent, capable of lighting up others to an idea. They are attracted to fantasy, the exotic, the romantic and sublime feelings.
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Achieves main results by the way of inspiring and emotionally motivating other people
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The most developed side of your personality is the ability to experience intense emotions. You are the person with a complicated spiritual world, full of contrasts and contradictions. For the sake of true, deep feelings you can sacrifice quite a lot.
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You do not always fit easily into the society and avoid unpleasant contact with uninteresting people. You show lack of confidence and certainly in your tastes, inability to properly track your own well-being.
Socionics - the16types.info - ENFj The Mentor profile by Gulenko
More below.