Azure Flame
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- Aug 26, 2010
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So I have a business partner, an ENFJ 3. We're also room mates.
He gives wayyyy too much to me. He cooks for me, he takes care of me. All of this stuff. He just, helps me with it all.
They say E3's have a fear of looking worthless, and thus strive to become as useful as possible.
As an E8, I pride myself in my ability to be self sufficient. Naturally this is starting to cause a little bit of friction as he offers me food and I say "no thank you."
Any practical suggestions on how I should approach this situation before resentment builds or his insecurities start to add up?
ENFJ's kinda freak me out because they give you stuff but I also suspect they're looking for something in return, and I never really know what to give them in return.
I don't really know how to approach the situation without feeling like that would be condescending. In an odd way he's fiercely loyal to me in a way that I don't think I deserve.
He gives wayyyy too much to me. He cooks for me, he takes care of me. All of this stuff. He just, helps me with it all.
They say E3's have a fear of looking worthless, and thus strive to become as useful as possible.
As an E8, I pride myself in my ability to be self sufficient. Naturally this is starting to cause a little bit of friction as he offers me food and I say "no thank you."
Any practical suggestions on how I should approach this situation before resentment builds or his insecurities start to add up?
ENFJ's kinda freak me out because they give you stuff but I also suspect they're looking for something in return, and I never really know what to give them in return.
I don't really know how to approach the situation without feeling like that would be condescending. In an odd way he's fiercely loyal to me in a way that I don't think I deserve.