Oddly Refined
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I have two good friends and I find that I like them individually or with other groups of people, but they both irritate me when the three of us are together. Specifically, they irritate me when we're in conversation. They don't appear to include me in the conversation at all.
I consulted two other friends on this subject to check out different perceptions. They both felt that individuals in question weren't effective at including other people into the group conversation.So, I took this back to the one of the two friends. (The friend smells like an E to me, but that's going to take me time to work on.) Her reply was, well the two of us always try to include you. We don't understand when you leave and we feel like we did something wrong.
The thinking process began within my world and several conclusions occurred to me. Small talk is boring to me, but I don't think it's useless. In depth detailed conversations are more interesting to me. I'm theorizing that I become emotionally taxed when the three of us are together. Either, it's boring or I just retire to my room for other reasons.
I value both these people quite a bit, but I would like to be able to hang out with them without wanting to leave. It appears that I have to work very hard to relate to them when they are together, but apart it's fine. I'd like to be able to process more on the issue, but I think I'm missing something. (And it's probably right in front of me because I live in my head.)
What kind of dynamics are present here that I am missing? Why are they okay apart, but taxing together? (My reaction appears to be that I am bored and not feel included.) If you need additional information from me to help flesh out options, please feel free to ask whatever you need to know.
I consulted two other friends on this subject to check out different perceptions. They both felt that individuals in question weren't effective at including other people into the group conversation.So, I took this back to the one of the two friends. (The friend smells like an E to me, but that's going to take me time to work on.) Her reply was, well the two of us always try to include you. We don't understand when you leave and we feel like we did something wrong.
The thinking process began within my world and several conclusions occurred to me. Small talk is boring to me, but I don't think it's useless. In depth detailed conversations are more interesting to me. I'm theorizing that I become emotionally taxed when the three of us are together. Either, it's boring or I just retire to my room for other reasons.
I value both these people quite a bit, but I would like to be able to hang out with them without wanting to leave. It appears that I have to work very hard to relate to them when they are together, but apart it's fine. I'd like to be able to process more on the issue, but I think I'm missing something. (And it's probably right in front of me because I live in my head.)
What kind of dynamics are present here that I am missing? Why are they okay apart, but taxing together? (My reaction appears to be that I am bored and not feel included.) If you need additional information from me to help flesh out options, please feel free to ask whatever you need to know.
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