Hi! I'm an ENFP female and have had a wonderful 2.5 year relationship with an INFJ male. We had an amazing 2 years but the last half year started to be really terrible. We found ourselves in financial difficulties and I would get really upset with him over small things. We argued a lot and he would always try to avoid these conflicts, but he was slowly withdrawing from me. I wasn't aware and just continued about our daily lives, thinking that when our situation improves, our relationship would to. In the end, after a final small argument he told me he was too tired to continue the relationship.
We lived together so he packed up and found a temporary place to stay for a week. Before he left, we agreed that we would do a one-month break where we would just date but not be in a relationship, and live apart so we have space. During the first week we had no contact and after the week was over, we met for lunch. He told me he thought he had about a 10% hope that we would be able to work things out but it was very minimal. After the lunch I called it off completely and told him we should just break up. He cried. Later on in the day i regretted my decision and asked to meet for dinner. During dinner we agreed to just see each other (and not other people) but not be in a relationship. I gave him one week to move his things out. He would continue to stay at a friend's place.
Sometime during that week that he was supposed to move out, I suggested going for weekly Sunday brunches for dates. He agreed, but I felt it was very half-hearted and he was only doing it for me. When he finally came to pick his stuff up, we had our last conversation outside the van and I told him I couldn't do the Sunday brunches either.
I don't plan to contact him anymore. I know I am too fickle but it's because I feel like he's just saying yes for me, but ultimately he doesn't want to do it (the brunches, dating etc).
I don't think this is a door slam since he has not completely erased me from his life. He did say that he wanted to try dating because he was worried he will regret breaking up, and worried that he can't find anyone better than me. But I am just too upset and can't think straight/ make decisions and stick to them so I am not going to talk to him for 30 days.
I guess my question is, if this is not an INFJ door slam, what is he thinking now? Is he going to move on? Does he just need space? If I don't talk to him for a month and then try contacting him again, will things get better?
Sorry for the really long explanation! I'm just so confused.
Any INFJ input here will help!