ClearHeartGreyFlower
New member
- Joined
- Oct 6, 2010
- Messages
- 19
- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 9
Attraction to very orderly structured stubborn SJs and robotic INTJs. Don't want schedules or other people to control me, yet have strong attraction to structure and dominance in men. Read murder mysteries for escape, think this is connected to attraction to order.
I've heard ENFPs are attracted to IxTJs. I just wonder if it's an ENFP thing or because I'm an E6. It seems almost non-sensical and paradoxical. It's been going on since my early 20's. I think I want someone to take care of me. This is bizarre since I usually rebel against other people's idea of structure.
It seems as though an ENFP would want to be with someone a little more loose and easy-going, but then again that makes me feel like I'd have to be the one in charge and I don't want that.
I think I need my head examined.
I have this problem too. >.< ...Right now I am in a relationship with an INTX, I can't figure out the J or P for the life of me...sometimes he acts really J, other times I look at how our house looks, and he must be a P. /shrug. Either way it's still related to that...I think I like having friends that are closer to my type (although the E and I factor doesn't matter to me), but when it comes to relationships, I have to have a common ground with them, at least something in common or our universal way of thinking, then everything else to be opposite. That's pretty much how my life has played out...I get crushes on other ENFPs or INFPs for example, but usually it doesn't go very far. Blah.
I'm not an E6, but I think I score a little high on it...I have gotten mixed results, I used to get 4 all the time, now I get 9...but either this is a coincidence between us two or it really is an ENFP-ish phenomena.