Cloudpatrol
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Several descriptors in the “What’s Your Love Type MBTI†thread contain: “being overly privateâ€, “closeness does not come quicklyâ€, “suspicious and distrusting†or “tend to hold back a part of yourself until sureâ€. (This topic tickles me as an INFP and a human.)
How well do we ever know anyone truly? Mark Twain said the only true auto-biography was contained inside ‘the thoughts that a person thinks to themselves within their lifetimeâ€.
We CAN observe, ask, share, intuit, perceive, judge, listen…
But, IF life is a process of individuals figuring out who they are and how best to represent/navigate that: how can one person expect to have a complete grasp or understanding of another? One whose mind we do not inhabit. Whose behaviour may differ from one social interaction to the next?
It is not dishonest to hold back some things until one's pragmatic side gives a go-ahead. (Of course there are exceptions: things people clearly deserve to know regardless of one's own feelings. Then being transparently candid IS required).
My own aim is to offer freely what I can, in an authentic and mindful way = meant as an indication of admiration and trust.
Can you relate or are you open from the get-go? Are you frustrated when people hold back parts of themselves…preferring it all to be ‘out on the table’?
Would you be content knowing you have MORE of someone than anyone else? That more will be forthcoming though some things may remain unknowable?
Does honouring connection still allow for respectful freedom & independence? Or do you desire more in YOUR connections (friendship or otherwise)?
How well do we ever know anyone truly? Mark Twain said the only true auto-biography was contained inside ‘the thoughts that a person thinks to themselves within their lifetimeâ€.
We CAN observe, ask, share, intuit, perceive, judge, listen…
But, IF life is a process of individuals figuring out who they are and how best to represent/navigate that: how can one person expect to have a complete grasp or understanding of another? One whose mind we do not inhabit. Whose behaviour may differ from one social interaction to the next?
It is not dishonest to hold back some things until one's pragmatic side gives a go-ahead. (Of course there are exceptions: things people clearly deserve to know regardless of one's own feelings. Then being transparently candid IS required).
My own aim is to offer freely what I can, in an authentic and mindful way = meant as an indication of admiration and trust.
Can you relate or are you open from the get-go? Are you frustrated when people hold back parts of themselves…preferring it all to be ‘out on the table’?
Would you be content knowing you have MORE of someone than anyone else? That more will be forthcoming though some things may remain unknowable?
Does honouring connection still allow for respectful freedom & independence? Or do you desire more in YOUR connections (friendship or otherwise)?
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