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Everybody goes through this ritual, being tested by others. People who develop a shell do so because they have not developed any other strategy for defending themselves.
Agreed. They need help with finding or developing another strategy, or even noticing they have this one and understanding why it's counterproductive and what can be done.
IOW there's a shitload of psychological stuff going on here that needs unravelling, preferably with the aid of counsellors but failing that, just getting time and space to do so with informal support can help. It's a long and painful process. Not something that can be simply skipped, and solved by being dragged along to a party and told to "just go up and talk to people".