Stanton Moore
morose bourgeoisie
- Joined
- Mar 4, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
I offend people a lot unintentionally too. I think it's the Te or something. I've been told I can seem abrasive, but I have a feeling this is when I am being defensive. Or it's people misreading my shyness & introversion as being stand-offish and rude. I also am less inclined to observe certain social niceties that seem phony to me.
Definitely agree with this.
NFPs may not be refusing to accept supposed "hard logic", but the person trying to make a point may not realize they haven't made it as clearly as they imagine they have. I notice people who love to argue and consider themselves "rational" are often blind to the big picture. They get stuck on "facts" and don't take into account human emotions and perspectives. Everything isn't black and white, and I think NFPs see that.
When we encounter these people, who feel they've successfully torn down our beliefs, we're probably internally rolling our eyes because we see their view as very limited, and we've lost all interest in explaining ourselves to someone who has blinders on.
NFPs can argue a point quite well, because as I brought out in my other post, we often use persuasion to appeal to people. It's a lot more subtle & effective because no one feels they are being attacked.
Like nebbykoo says, expending that energy to argue our viewpoint is often not worth it. Why argue with someone who is dead set in their ways? What do you accomplish?
This is a great point. Other people can posite something as perfectly clear and logical, but it misses the entire human component, and to me, the answer is incomplete because of this.
My sister is this kind of logical thinker (she is insensed by other people not seeing how simple everything thing is!), but often needs to hear what she is missing through her simple, logical conclusions...
And then I have to point out how she is not being logical at all, but only rationalising her own preconceptions about the situation.