BAJ
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- Jun 29, 2008
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One of my difficulties is that I crave alone time and I want to have deep relationships with people at the same time.
I read one INFP saying they worked very hard to have relationships. It was hard to get to where they were. What exactly was the work you did?
I speak of both friendships and romance, whereas most threads here often are about romance.
I want to have some closeness, and people who love me. I want to have people who see my life as a comedy of errors rather than a tragedy.
However, generally I need lots of time alone and unstructured by other people, or so I believe. If people are too needy for me to entertain them when they are bored or start obligating me to do things, then I feel irritated or depressed and just withdraw.
How do you INFPs (and others) resolve this issue of needing time alone, but needing to do things to keep it going? Do you just take extra vitamins? Do you let your irritation show?
What types would be most sensitive to my dilemma? Like "Please Understand Me" talks about how your "opposite" will be best for you, but I think that's hokey. The opposite sounds like precisely what would NOT work.
I read one INFP saying they worked very hard to have relationships. It was hard to get to where they were. What exactly was the work you did?
I speak of both friendships and romance, whereas most threads here often are about romance.
I want to have some closeness, and people who love me. I want to have people who see my life as a comedy of errors rather than a tragedy.
However, generally I need lots of time alone and unstructured by other people, or so I believe. If people are too needy for me to entertain them when they are bored or start obligating me to do things, then I feel irritated or depressed and just withdraw.
How do you INFPs (and others) resolve this issue of needing time alone, but needing to do things to keep it going? Do you just take extra vitamins? Do you let your irritation show?
What types would be most sensitive to my dilemma? Like "Please Understand Me" talks about how your "opposite" will be best for you, but I think that's hokey. The opposite sounds like precisely what would NOT work.