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🧠Unsure of Enneatype (Help and be rewarded with food/cat gifs uwu) ðŸ§
Disclaimer: How are you doing? Are there any major life events/illnesses/other issues that might be influencing you? Did you write this in one sitting, or have you pondered these issues deeply? Give us a sense of "where you're at" right now.
A: I'm doing alright right now. And to answer the second question - nah, I don't think they'd be really relevant either - at least, the ones that seem even just a bit important. But not relevant to how I might answer. And I wrote this in one sitting but I took a few breaks in between questions because at some moments, I became too lazy of being introspective hehe. But yup, doing fine.
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0. What's making you unsure of your type? What research have you already done to determine type?
A: Originally, I typed myself as a 4w3 but lately, I've started to look at more enneagram types and felt a piece of myself in a few other ones, especially with enneagram 6 a type that I've seriously considered. And I've just checked out general typing forums that talk to you about possible and common misidentifications between different types.
1. Establish a "baseline mood" - when you're at home with nothing to do, where are you at mentally and emotionally? What do you notice in yourself? (Note, this is not a mood you inhabit "frequently", but your psychological baseline).
A: I always try to find someway to distract myself and kind of plan out in my head what I should do so I won't be wasteful of the time. Mentally, I guess for the most part I'm at a neutral state of mind. When I'm alone, sometimes the loneliness can kind of get to me and I desire to be in contact with others but don't for the fear of seeming clingy or being an inconvenience to them. Even when trying to occupy myself with different activities (ex. reading, surfing the web), a lot of the time my mind dwells in both the past and future.
2. Describe yourself--
a. What's it like to be you? A: For the most part, I think it's okay. But my mind tends to be filled with a lot of doubtful and anxious thoughts that come out of nowhere so mentally, I think it'd be kind of bad. I give off a simultaneously hyperactive and awkward demeanor to other people so yeah, not too good with making friends. I have a good life but because of the whole mental state, I don't think I'd be the best person for someone else to put their shoes in.
b. What have others said about you? A: It depends on who, as I give off a lot of different personas. To my parents, I think that they'd see me as a rebellious nonconformist who uses humor to deflect a lot of things, but can sometimes take it to a whole other level. (But, they're extremely conservative/traditional and religious so that'd make sense. Relative.) One friend had described me as equitable and happy a lot of the time, another friend described me as a "good therapist", another friend (the mom of every group) has described me as somewhat immature and a huge (both literally and figuratively lmao) procrastinator. To authority/teachers, I've been described as a mostly mellow person who doesn't speak their mind a lot. But that's only in classes. Otherwise, they say that I'm outspoken and a very moralistic person, as I care a lot about social justice and an advocate for it.
c. What do you think of yourself? I think of myself as a very reflective and perceptive person, who wants to be that one reliable and all-knowing friend. I contradict myself a lot of times too and kind of appear as a "go big or go home" person. There's another phrase for it, but that could be analogized lol. I'm either too open or too withdrawn, too passive or too passionate, too uptight or goes with the flow way too much, etc... I don't feel too different from other people, but I think it's more of just me growing up a bit more quickly - mentally, that is. But yeah, I think how different people think of me is mostly accurate.
3. What are the issues you've dealt with in life? List some recurrent themes, and tell us a little about each one.
A: 1 - I went through self-harm/cutting for a while earlier in life, stopped for a year, continued, but finally went through therapy as the school counselor strongly suggested it for me. I met with both the school counselor and the outside counselor for a while. For the school counselor, I felt more vulnerable to being open about my feelings but it was okay, as I trusted her. The reason behind self-harming was mainly because I felt like it was a way to "punish" myself and also to kind of get the intensity out of the sensation, chemically wise.
*Kind of want to get on with the other questions, but might put in a bit more general situations as I felt that this was a bit more... informative and possibly somewhat important to know. I'm not sure. My life has been mostly stable in terms of the world around me, to be honest haha.
4. You're not good at everything--
a. What personality traits and/or ways of being are impossible for you to adopt? A: One trait that I feel is impossible for me to develop is to be completely objective about situations and also to be aggressive/domineering. I tend to be a mostly doubtful person so I feel that being a leader of any sort would be a mess as I can be mildly passive-aggressive at times, etc... So yeah, any qualities of a type 8 lol.
b. What are qualities you'd like to have, but can't seem to develop? A: One trait I'd like to have would be to become fully independent. When I think about situations and how to handle them, it's difficult for me to fully make a decision without questioning almost every single possibility and thinking about the after consequences of those possibilities, etc...
5. Why have you left friends and other relationships in the past and/or why have they left you?
A: It's gonna sound kind of stupid but a few friendships I've left often resulted in me feeling like I'd inconveniencing them if I were to kind of remain in their lives any further so I usually leave just because of coming to the conclusion it'd probably be better. Some friendships kind of disappeared after a lack of commitment from both sides in trying to continue it. Time is usually just one of the most prevalent factors when it comes to disappearing friendships or relationships.
6. Which types do you identify with most? A: The types I relate to the most? Hmm - as core, I could kind of see 1, 2, 4, 6, and 9, though 4 and 6 are the ones I'm having more of a problem with choosing between.
a. How do you relate to these types? A: For 1, I can relate to it in the sense of making decisions based off of moral obligation and having my purpose in life to . I can relate to 2 in the sense of wanting to be a reliable friend to everyone and helping out with the problems of other people. For 4, I can relate to the self-consciousness and idealization of them. As well as the whole romantic ideal. For 6, the anxiety description definitely resonated with me as well as the feeling of having to take responsibility for a lot of things, and the whole feel of doubt. For 9, I'd have to agree with the description of being agreeable and doing things for the sake of avoiding unnecessary fights.
b. How do you NOT relate to them?A: For 1, I'm not as perfectionistic and definitely have less ambition. I tend to idealize about methods to make situations better but don't act upon them, and I'm critical of myself, definitely - but not as much to other people, as I tend to give myself a different set of standards. For 2, I really don't feel obliged to get into the personal lives of other people. For 4, I really don't feel all that different or alienated from other people. For 6, I'm not as committed though commitment is one of my values and I tend to want to have options just to see if there's anything better. Relating to a 9, I can definitely be argumentative about things that I feel are "right", but all subjective upon the people I'm with.
7. Which types are least like you? *SKIPPED FOR NOW
a. Why specifically do you not relate to these types?
b. What points (if any) DO you relate to?
8. They claim enneagram type is a hidden love need. What are your attitudes toward finding love?
A: I value the concept of love, definitely. To kind of have a person that looks at the whole authentic you and appreciates it "warts and alls". I don't have too much of an opinion on trying to find it, though to be honest. I've always been attracted to the idea of spontaneously meeting them, in the most unlikely places and having a spontaneous and unpredictable relationship, though I definitely do believe it's important not to mistake drama for happiness. But I also value compatibility (ex. INFP and ENFJ relationship) - same order of functions but the only difference being subjectiveness vs. objectiveness. Yeah, I don't know.
9. What is the message your superego tells you? *SKIPPED FOR NOW
Consider a time when you felt poorly about yourself--this means your ego (i.e. YOU) is receiving negative feedback from your superego. Write a conversation between the two of them--what is your superego telling you about how to be? (Note: this obviously is very personal and may be better done privately. Report your findings).
Disclaimer: How are you doing? Are there any major life events/illnesses/other issues that might be influencing you? Did you write this in one sitting, or have you pondered these issues deeply? Give us a sense of "where you're at" right now.
A: I'm doing alright right now. And to answer the second question - nah, I don't think they'd be really relevant either - at least, the ones that seem even just a bit important. But not relevant to how I might answer. And I wrote this in one sitting but I took a few breaks in between questions because at some moments, I became too lazy of being introspective hehe. But yup, doing fine.
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0. What's making you unsure of your type? What research have you already done to determine type?
A: Originally, I typed myself as a 4w3 but lately, I've started to look at more enneagram types and felt a piece of myself in a few other ones, especially with enneagram 6 a type that I've seriously considered. And I've just checked out general typing forums that talk to you about possible and common misidentifications between different types.
1. Establish a "baseline mood" - when you're at home with nothing to do, where are you at mentally and emotionally? What do you notice in yourself? (Note, this is not a mood you inhabit "frequently", but your psychological baseline).
A: I always try to find someway to distract myself and kind of plan out in my head what I should do so I won't be wasteful of the time. Mentally, I guess for the most part I'm at a neutral state of mind. When I'm alone, sometimes the loneliness can kind of get to me and I desire to be in contact with others but don't for the fear of seeming clingy or being an inconvenience to them. Even when trying to occupy myself with different activities (ex. reading, surfing the web), a lot of the time my mind dwells in both the past and future.
2. Describe yourself--
a. What's it like to be you? A: For the most part, I think it's okay. But my mind tends to be filled with a lot of doubtful and anxious thoughts that come out of nowhere so mentally, I think it'd be kind of bad. I give off a simultaneously hyperactive and awkward demeanor to other people so yeah, not too good with making friends. I have a good life but because of the whole mental state, I don't think I'd be the best person for someone else to put their shoes in.
b. What have others said about you? A: It depends on who, as I give off a lot of different personas. To my parents, I think that they'd see me as a rebellious nonconformist who uses humor to deflect a lot of things, but can sometimes take it to a whole other level. (But, they're extremely conservative/traditional and religious so that'd make sense. Relative.) One friend had described me as equitable and happy a lot of the time, another friend described me as a "good therapist", another friend (the mom of every group) has described me as somewhat immature and a huge (both literally and figuratively lmao) procrastinator. To authority/teachers, I've been described as a mostly mellow person who doesn't speak their mind a lot. But that's only in classes. Otherwise, they say that I'm outspoken and a very moralistic person, as I care a lot about social justice and an advocate for it.
c. What do you think of yourself? I think of myself as a very reflective and perceptive person, who wants to be that one reliable and all-knowing friend. I contradict myself a lot of times too and kind of appear as a "go big or go home" person. There's another phrase for it, but that could be analogized lol. I'm either too open or too withdrawn, too passive or too passionate, too uptight or goes with the flow way too much, etc... I don't feel too different from other people, but I think it's more of just me growing up a bit more quickly - mentally, that is. But yeah, I think how different people think of me is mostly accurate.
3. What are the issues you've dealt with in life? List some recurrent themes, and tell us a little about each one.
A: 1 - I went through self-harm/cutting for a while earlier in life, stopped for a year, continued, but finally went through therapy as the school counselor strongly suggested it for me. I met with both the school counselor and the outside counselor for a while. For the school counselor, I felt more vulnerable to being open about my feelings but it was okay, as I trusted her. The reason behind self-harming was mainly because I felt like it was a way to "punish" myself and also to kind of get the intensity out of the sensation, chemically wise.
*Kind of want to get on with the other questions, but might put in a bit more general situations as I felt that this was a bit more... informative and possibly somewhat important to know. I'm not sure. My life has been mostly stable in terms of the world around me, to be honest haha.
4. You're not good at everything--
a. What personality traits and/or ways of being are impossible for you to adopt? A: One trait that I feel is impossible for me to develop is to be completely objective about situations and also to be aggressive/domineering. I tend to be a mostly doubtful person so I feel that being a leader of any sort would be a mess as I can be mildly passive-aggressive at times, etc... So yeah, any qualities of a type 8 lol.
b. What are qualities you'd like to have, but can't seem to develop? A: One trait I'd like to have would be to become fully independent. When I think about situations and how to handle them, it's difficult for me to fully make a decision without questioning almost every single possibility and thinking about the after consequences of those possibilities, etc...
5. Why have you left friends and other relationships in the past and/or why have they left you?
A: It's gonna sound kind of stupid but a few friendships I've left often resulted in me feeling like I'd inconveniencing them if I were to kind of remain in their lives any further so I usually leave just because of coming to the conclusion it'd probably be better. Some friendships kind of disappeared after a lack of commitment from both sides in trying to continue it. Time is usually just one of the most prevalent factors when it comes to disappearing friendships or relationships.
6. Which types do you identify with most? A: The types I relate to the most? Hmm - as core, I could kind of see 1, 2, 4, 6, and 9, though 4 and 6 are the ones I'm having more of a problem with choosing between.
a. How do you relate to these types? A: For 1, I can relate to it in the sense of making decisions based off of moral obligation and having my purpose in life to . I can relate to 2 in the sense of wanting to be a reliable friend to everyone and helping out with the problems of other people. For 4, I can relate to the self-consciousness and idealization of them. As well as the whole romantic ideal. For 6, the anxiety description definitely resonated with me as well as the feeling of having to take responsibility for a lot of things, and the whole feel of doubt. For 9, I'd have to agree with the description of being agreeable and doing things for the sake of avoiding unnecessary fights.
b. How do you NOT relate to them?A: For 1, I'm not as perfectionistic and definitely have less ambition. I tend to idealize about methods to make situations better but don't act upon them, and I'm critical of myself, definitely - but not as much to other people, as I tend to give myself a different set of standards. For 2, I really don't feel obliged to get into the personal lives of other people. For 4, I really don't feel all that different or alienated from other people. For 6, I'm not as committed though commitment is one of my values and I tend to want to have options just to see if there's anything better. Relating to a 9, I can definitely be argumentative about things that I feel are "right", but all subjective upon the people I'm with.
7. Which types are least like you? *SKIPPED FOR NOW
a. Why specifically do you not relate to these types?
b. What points (if any) DO you relate to?
8. They claim enneagram type is a hidden love need. What are your attitudes toward finding love?
A: I value the concept of love, definitely. To kind of have a person that looks at the whole authentic you and appreciates it "warts and alls". I don't have too much of an opinion on trying to find it, though to be honest. I've always been attracted to the idea of spontaneously meeting them, in the most unlikely places and having a spontaneous and unpredictable relationship, though I definitely do believe it's important not to mistake drama for happiness. But I also value compatibility (ex. INFP and ENFJ relationship) - same order of functions but the only difference being subjectiveness vs. objectiveness. Yeah, I don't know.
9. What is the message your superego tells you? *SKIPPED FOR NOW
Consider a time when you felt poorly about yourself--this means your ego (i.e. YOU) is receiving negative feedback from your superego. Write a conversation between the two of them--what is your superego telling you about how to be? (Note: this obviously is very personal and may be better done privately. Report your findings).
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