amerellis
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The types I'm closest to/ a combination of are INFP, ESFP, and ENTP.
So the type that is my nearest neighbor is ESFP which is why I come across as an E and due to Se and other things, influences why I am so impatient, impulsive and indulgent, as I don't have an INTJ shadow type to help balance this out.
However, I have the functions of an INFP (with ESTJ shadow).
Also, I have Ne very similar to that of ENTP males and, despite our different functions, we often have a very good understandings of one another. However, I have made a real effort to change lately so this may not be as true now as it once was.
So all this must sound like wtf? but I don't think this for no reason. It really does fit me.
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When I was younger, I was more balanced and had the functions of an ESTJ primarily displayed in my personality but as I got older and things shifted, I became more and more NF and then when I got depressed it was like I officially switched to Fi dom Ne secondary, INFP functions. Which, with my depression, shocked the hell out of my INTP sister, who was used to the more ESTJ functioning me growing up. She did not respond very kindly to my new NF Fi dom, let's just say.
I learned about meyers briggs shortly after I became depressed and self-conscious. I was fascinated and shocked that my INFP typing was so rare cause when I was younger (ages 9-11) after I had learned to be more social, I had felt pretty normal and assumed others were like me, which, having primarily ESTJ functions, was I guess a little bit true.
Anyway, I was so intrigued by what I thought I could learn from this test that a ton of my friends from church and I had taken together.
And . . . that's when it all began. I became obsessed. I eventually figured out which types I was and wasn't compatible with which didn't match up at all for the types INFPs and ENFPs were supposed to find compatible. For example, weren't INTPs supposed to generally be compatible with ENFPs AND INFPs? Sure as hell wasn't true with me and my sister, due to my ESFP likeness. I could not understand the way she thought about things for the life of me. Also, I was despised by both ENTJ and ESTP males. As an INFP, ESTPs hating me seemed possible because we were so different but ENTJ was supposed to be a type I was compatible with. As an ENFP, it didn't make sense either; ESTPs and ENFPs, at least of the same gender, seemed to be pretty compatible as most Same Different Different Percieving types seem to be. But no, ESTP males loathed me and ESTP females . . . we had no understanding. All this is just how the types I was and wasn't compatible with indicated I wasn't exactly typical for either type. Another part of realizing I wasn't typical for either one was that I didn't feel I could relate to either of the types. The people of the same type as you, you would think there would be a feeling of connection, of understanding, but I was SO different from all the other INFPs I encountered, online and irl, and ENFPs I couldn't relate to either.
When I was younger, my first real friend was an ESFP. She was drawn to me initially because I had an ESTJ I don't care what people think about me attitude. She was wonderful; liked by all she was one of the most popular girls in school and it was strange that an odd one like me ended up becoming her best friend. It was through being friends with her that I came to learn how to be more social. Me being so near to ESFP and us being kids and all, we got along great. I had been a pretty odd kid, but through social interaction I better learned what was and wasn't acceptable to say. I instead translated my weirdness into a socially acceptable, and out spoken sense of humor. I loved making my ESFP friend laugh and she was just so much fun to be around.
Anyway, point of the story: That's how I, for a while at least, learned to be socially adapt and how I learned to express myself more normally. Even now I can still hear the influence her voice had on mine.
After all that then you might be thinking, could you be an ESFP then? But the answer is no. I don’t relate well to ESFPs either and I’m quite certainly an NF.
You might be wondering . . . how do you know that your functions are INFP/ESTJ and not ENFP/ISTJ? Well . . . because as I got older and more NF, I became more and more introverted and socially awkward not to mention, very weird.
I’m sure you guys will be having a lot of doubts and questions about all this. Feel free to ask, but if a question ends up somehow being related to the typing method I’ve developed, I’m really sorry you guys but I won’t be answering those ones.
Thanks for taking the time to reading all this!
So the type that is my nearest neighbor is ESFP which is why I come across as an E and due to Se and other things, influences why I am so impatient, impulsive and indulgent, as I don't have an INTJ shadow type to help balance this out.
However, I have the functions of an INFP (with ESTJ shadow).
Also, I have Ne very similar to that of ENTP males and, despite our different functions, we often have a very good understandings of one another. However, I have made a real effort to change lately so this may not be as true now as it once was.
So all this must sound like wtf? but I don't think this for no reason. It really does fit me.
______________
When I was younger, I was more balanced and had the functions of an ESTJ primarily displayed in my personality but as I got older and things shifted, I became more and more NF and then when I got depressed it was like I officially switched to Fi dom Ne secondary, INFP functions. Which, with my depression, shocked the hell out of my INTP sister, who was used to the more ESTJ functioning me growing up. She did not respond very kindly to my new NF Fi dom, let's just say.
I learned about meyers briggs shortly after I became depressed and self-conscious. I was fascinated and shocked that my INFP typing was so rare cause when I was younger (ages 9-11) after I had learned to be more social, I had felt pretty normal and assumed others were like me, which, having primarily ESTJ functions, was I guess a little bit true.
Anyway, I was so intrigued by what I thought I could learn from this test that a ton of my friends from church and I had taken together.
And . . . that's when it all began. I became obsessed. I eventually figured out which types I was and wasn't compatible with which didn't match up at all for the types INFPs and ENFPs were supposed to find compatible. For example, weren't INTPs supposed to generally be compatible with ENFPs AND INFPs? Sure as hell wasn't true with me and my sister, due to my ESFP likeness. I could not understand the way she thought about things for the life of me. Also, I was despised by both ENTJ and ESTP males. As an INFP, ESTPs hating me seemed possible because we were so different but ENTJ was supposed to be a type I was compatible with. As an ENFP, it didn't make sense either; ESTPs and ENFPs, at least of the same gender, seemed to be pretty compatible as most Same Different Different Percieving types seem to be. But no, ESTP males loathed me and ESTP females . . . we had no understanding. All this is just how the types I was and wasn't compatible with indicated I wasn't exactly typical for either type. Another part of realizing I wasn't typical for either one was that I didn't feel I could relate to either of the types. The people of the same type as you, you would think there would be a feeling of connection, of understanding, but I was SO different from all the other INFPs I encountered, online and irl, and ENFPs I couldn't relate to either.
When I was younger, my first real friend was an ESFP. She was drawn to me initially because I had an ESTJ I don't care what people think about me attitude. She was wonderful; liked by all she was one of the most popular girls in school and it was strange that an odd one like me ended up becoming her best friend. It was through being friends with her that I came to learn how to be more social. Me being so near to ESFP and us being kids and all, we got along great. I had been a pretty odd kid, but through social interaction I better learned what was and wasn't acceptable to say. I instead translated my weirdness into a socially acceptable, and out spoken sense of humor. I loved making my ESFP friend laugh and she was just so much fun to be around.
Anyway, point of the story: That's how I, for a while at least, learned to be socially adapt and how I learned to express myself more normally. Even now I can still hear the influence her voice had on mine.
After all that then you might be thinking, could you be an ESFP then? But the answer is no. I don’t relate well to ESFPs either and I’m quite certainly an NF.
You might be wondering . . . how do you know that your functions are INFP/ESTJ and not ENFP/ISTJ? Well . . . because as I got older and more NF, I became more and more introverted and socially awkward not to mention, very weird.
I’m sure you guys will be having a lot of doubts and questions about all this. Feel free to ask, but if a question ends up somehow being related to the typing method I’ve developed, I’m really sorry you guys but I won’t be answering those ones.
Thanks for taking the time to reading all this!