olivetti
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- Joined
- Aug 24, 2014
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 9w1
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/so
I have also read in some INFJ descriptions that they can offer advice and be offended when others don't heed it.
I wanted to address this (sorry I didn't quote all of it, fia, but this phrase in particular stood out). I think frustrated might be a better term. It's frustrating after the fact, I see that someone who didn't take my advice, and they wound up worse than before - and complaining just as loudly about their circumstance. That annoys me. If someone doesn't take my advice and they find a better outcome for their situation, that doesn't bother me; I'm glad they found an answer that worked. But I don't like it when I give people some advice, advice that I feel will work and they end up worse off because they didn't even try it.
That's more of a problem with Ni's bossiness, maybe. We ultimately feel that this is the right thing to do for this person, and when we mention it, we expect others to be as enlightened as we are on it. I've been caught off-guard when someone hasn't felt the same way regarding my advice, but I'm mature enough to not get mad at them for it. I'm only upset if they keep complaining to me about it after I offered a solution they didn't take.
And that is kinda pushy, I agree.