Skyward
Badoom~
- Joined
- Jul 3, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- infj
- Enneagram
- 9w1
Really? I do know that I'm ridiculously conflict-avoidant, but I don't necessarily do a lot of apologizing unless I sense I've hurt someone. Instead, I tend to go along with things and be pretty laidback until someone crosses one of my lines and then, dear God, Katie bar the door! Even then, I sometimes don't confront the other person but will just disappear for however long it takes me to get over the line-crossing (sometimes I never do).
I realize how P-A this all sounds, so clearly it's something I need to work on. Sometimes if I can take the time to write down my thoughts on an issue, I can go back and be--well, not confrontational--but make my position clear without the need to apologize.
This is me also. I used to have a VERY low patience threshhold when I was little, though. I used to extraordinarily easy piss off or send into an emo crying fit until about 7th grade (About the time I left public school to this charter school... coincidence?) I still have more physically reactive to my feelings (If I get frustrated enough I hit things) than most people I know, but I guess that's my kind of 'be yourself, it's all you truly own' philosophy backfiring on me.
For me, saying sorry is a big thing. I wont say sorry unless I truly don't want to do whatever I did again. This requires my to have changed my view on the person I need to apologize to (There are some people that it would take a LOT of motivation to get me to apologize to.)