Riva
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- Joined
- Jun 26, 2014
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- Enneagram
- 7w8
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
Then perhaps we could venture saying you're not a Sp-first.
If I had to take a wild stab at typing, I would say you strike me as a Sx-last, probably leaning towards a So/Sp.
Hey thank you for your feedback regarding my type )).
I do get constantly typed as an SO dom on vent also, and SX as my second.
Yeah, that's another theory, but it's been semi-established by others. The secondary instinct is used to facilitate a sense of security for the primary instinct.
No, what I was trying to say was that I can vaguely recall you theorizing that the primary function is there to facilitate the secondary function, not the other way around. I guess if that is so, it makes more sense that I am a so/sp.
Yes, but just be aware that this stuff is not that literal. It's not like Sx-firsts are conscious of a need to feel bonded when they feel jealous. They just (perhaps unconsciously) experience a sense of instability in the relationship. They may simply feel that when they're away from that person that their relationship is threatened.
Like I said I feel jealously too quite a bit, but this is mostly power related than a relationship fragility scare. I think the two go hand in hand to a certain extent but if I think it's safer to say that I fear my place in their life more so than a relationship scare. This is especially evident when - gulp! - I losing anxiousness regarding relationship scare if or when I realize there isn't much to gain from being closer to them. Sounds terrible doesn't it? However in my defence, I try to maintain relationship with all those who have 'touched' me closely or if I/we have shared something with each other that has moved me in some way.
If I had Fi, would all that been easier I wonder.
Edit -
So probably the SX I feel that I have in me is because of -
However i am not sure whether it's something i developed after i hit a certain age because i can remember thinking to myself a long long time ago that i often leave a conversation un dug/that i could have had more from the conversation. I think my desire to dig in may have started since then.
Conclusion?
Sooooo could it be finalized that I am a so/sp? If so i atleast have my instinctual variant figured out.
Now for the enneagram..