I think 7 w something... you seem like a 7. Instinctual variant maybe so/sp.
[MENTION=22067]riva[/MENTION]
a few things
- if you are Social dom, it's not Social 7 (only Social type I could see you as is Social 9)
- Self Preservation and Sexual are both 1 to 1 instincts (in fact, pretty much everyone prefers 1-1 or small group conversation to large groups except for So/Sp). Sx is more about intense addiction, sensual passion, obsession, energy, sexual intimacy (the emphasis is on sexual because, while the Sexual instinct is related to intimacy, intimacy comes in many forms, and almost everyone craves one form or another. my Sx last parents, for instance, are both very intimate with each other).
- nothing you've said here really indicates either Sp/So or Sp/Sx specifically
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Thanks for this.
Seems to be getting typed as sx last since late which is hard for me to swallow. And a few typed me as an e3 on ventrilo which i am ready to battle to death to prove wrong.
I thought sx on top two is obvious. I am quite good - atleast keen - on one on one conversations. I have this need to know - if i put it into words, it's the need to know the inner workings of the person i am talking to.
However i am not sure whether it's something i developed after i hit a certain age because i can remember thinking to myself a long long time ago that i often leave a conversation un dug/that i could have had more from the conversation. I think my desire to dig in may have started since then.
By digging in i often make people i interact with feel bonded to me as they seem to confide in me. However i've noticed that when having one on one conversations 'i keep an unemotional facial expression' probably leaving peopke in real life well conversed with me yet emotionally unattached.
Edit -
I've noticed that i am able to engage more on an induvidual level in group scenarios. (Will that cut sx off?) Yes definitely noticed this. Esp with females i am interacting with. If therr are groups of females (2 or more) i seem more engaging and in the zone . I even tend to hit on a girl i am attracted to and successfully make them laugh when she is with her friends.
Holy shit i even leave my one on one conversations on polite (hello how are you note) with girls i am attracted to even slightly. This seems to work though - if i am hitting on them - because i don't come across as a flirt to them. However it could be my sx that has realized it is best to engage in a non flirty way when hitting on a girl or asking her on a date.
However i do hit on girls online a lot. In rl i politely engage, give her a chance to get to know me and then ask whether she is free on the weekend .
Does that make me sp/so? Almost hard to believe since they seem so uppish on tv.
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Don't think i am so/sp because they seem so polite and even sexless.
I am probably so/sx, sp/sx, sp/so. Definitely not a sx dom me thinks.
he is not Social 7 (they are more like New Age-y, pseudo-spiritual liberals who pride themselves in how much "global awareness" they have)
@OP
7w6 Sp/So (maybe Sp/Sx)
In ur dreams. I charge by the picosecond.Throw in an instinctual variant too.
And a mbti type if you wish.
Don't mind answering questions at all.
If anything...the above would point (however slightly) to social dominance in my mind...and honestly, with the way you engage people on the site...your focus... that is where I believe you fall. Like you indicate you're not a sx dom. And you're not sp/sx. I could buy so/sx but I wouldn't rule out so/sp because they are "to nice and virginal" or whatever you said. Okay, I'm now noticing that I'm running behind schedule here and need to go...but I'll go ahead and post this anyway.
Like I indicated I feel you are probably eNTP 7 but 9 is certainly a possibility (and you clearly have a 3 fix.)
What do you relate to and reject with regards to 7?
What do you relate to and reject with regards to 9?
After watching so many of these interviews and really hearing what he had to say...I now 100% believe the e7 poster child was in reality an e6w7 ([MENTION=5418]Lady_X[/MENTION] ). This is for many reasons including he claimed in more than one interview that he didn't become the "crazy funny improv" individual until age 18 or so...that he had always been a sad, lonely child and then something clicked in him (e7 generally have the exact opposite experience of being the happy, optimistic child and paranoia/fear sets in around 18.)
^^they say that e6w7 is where most celebrities/actors fall. Sensitive...realistic child...with a connection to e3 image and image generation...once that e7 wing hits they can become whomever they wish to be to insure they are "loved and admired."
Well, 9w8, aren't "completely" conflict avoiding. It's more of a "pick your battles" thing. I don't think it's as much a fear factor or lazy factor as it is a determination to invest time and energy into things that really count. Having said that, 9w8 s have a temper and sometimes, it gets loose!
*disclaimer---I still think I haven't gotten into enneagrams enough to actually help someone discover theirs.
MBTI--- I'm thinking NT of some sort.
In ur dreams. I charge by the picosecond.
(AND you'd have to get a massage terapist to give me a back rub)
I agree with 7. 7w6 sounds right, but if the 8w7 under your avatar refers to you (I know it doesn't always), you could be 7w8. Variant is uncertain. Also,
7w6 so-dom
ENTP 7w8....don't have enough nervous head energy for a 6 wing, IMO.
Here are instinctual variant summaries for 7s (it may be total BS - who knows):
The sp 7 is the most classically hedonistic - more often Se-dom, IMO. They are charismatic for their own gain & comfort (although not necessarily conscious of that motivation), wanting to keep positive relations with other so the good times keep flowing. They seek out never-ending stimulation to self-soothe. They plan a lot - the next dinner, the next trip, the next purchase....They keep focused on the future by stocking it with pleasant things to expect.
The sx 7 is the most fantastical - they are idea hoppers, always with a new scheme or a new love, but the novelty is more intangible than with sp types. They tend to embody their ideas, almost like an image type has a persona to divert shame (but theirs is anxiety - like this Fiona Apple lyric: "I notice that my opponent is always on the go - and - won't go slow, so's not to focus, and I notice / He'll hitch a ride with any guide, as long as they go fast from whence he came / But he's no good at being uncomfortable, so he can't stop staying exactly the same"). It's like shedding new skin all the time; running away from yourself, maybe? More often Ne-dom, I suppose, or maybe Se-dom focus more on tangibles, but less about consuming/planning like the sp type and more about sheer experience.
The so 7 is the most idealistic - they have a cause, sometimes it's through irritating & simplistic "be happy!" mantras and other times they have more depth and really revolutionary ideas. They can be really optimistic and upbeat towards people, trying to "inspire" them, or they can enjoy stirring up controversy to induce change and see what happens when they poke someone. The focus is on affecting change outside of themselves, for their own amusement/pleasure/satisfaction (although they likely won't admit this to themselves).
So I guess SP/SX is no viable? I was actually quite sure I was a sp/sx for a while because: (1st and mainly) Orangeappled suggested it (which she later reversed :sigh and (2nd) I am by default more concerned about physical comfort, especially more so than social corporation/roles etc. I think about SP naturally whereas I have to think about SO intentionally, which seems to have developed in me since the late teens. Even now (age 26) I intentionally have to think about my social standing. However I must confess it has become second nature to me. Only issue is I don't worry about it and never feel as though I am a part of a social group or that I have to be a part of a social group. It seems I slip out of 'it' too easily to have been concerned about it wholeheartedly. Does it sound SO not-primary? (Wait I do seem to have a need to have a touch and go relationship with people I think are worthy.)
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However (and also), I do have a good belief in self in my ability to competently slip into a social hierarchy/gourp (feel a part of a group) and have an instinctual ability to know where to stand, to whom next to stand and when to stand . That sounds terribly SO dom doesn't it? However I know that I only developed a concern for a social/political group bonding during my late teens.
Haha I don't think So/Sp are nice or too virginal. They seem socially highly appropriate which I am not. (I do know how to be socially appropriate, don't worry ). It's just that I could often get difficult with groups not having the patience to: not point out the obvious, humorous, imaginative and be rude etc. (I have the need to be rude when I want to.) Also So/Sp seem a bit nervous, as if they are trying really hard not to have misunderstanding or their opinions hurt/disturb others/someone, which I definitely don't have the issue of. (But I do try to keep social/group harmony and electrocute people every minute either.)
Okay I was never the sad and lonely kid but I never was the bubbly, energetic, naturally attention grabbing extroverted kid e7s are universally typed as (I am exaggerating but you do get the picture I hope). And I was never really concerned about being bored and try to escape it as though my life depended on it which most e7s actually seem to do. (Also I am quite moderate on energy). Escaping pain, definitely not me. I could go on further but I think you probably get the pic. This is why I thought/sometimes still think I am a e9.
Being sp/sx or sx/sp though...it's like having stood at the beginning of your life and said..."Sure can't wait for my lifetime of 'unrest' to begin."
Not saying the other dom/aux combinations don't have their challenges... I'm just saying I don't recognize in you this particular brand of 'torn'. A kind of torn that 'positive outlook' can't even conceal/erase in its entirety. So, a 7 or 9 with this dom/aux combo... they may present with a genuinely optimistic mood and yet you can still feel the inner conflict... Hear the churning of their insides.
You otoh seem quite consistently good-natured imo. Yes, I admire how honest and straightforward you are. I know you are authentic in everything you say and do...refusing to sacrafice your truth for the sake of social harmony. But unless I'm completely missing something...and with how distinct this particular struggle is I really don't think I am...I see no conflict in you. You seem able to let things go. This to me is social dominance.
I'm currently at a place where the internet connection is very weak so I will have to say what I want in smaller bites me thinks.
9w8... ENTP 9w8...
Let me think about the stacking.