Ok, but is that necessarily a problem? Painful to watch, I'm sure, but ... the ISFJ does not belong in your organization if she can't toughen up and "just do her work" and learn to get her personal needs met elsewhere. She needs clearer instruction. The desire to please is no less.
Maybe it's because I've worked so long, I have trouble understanding that the ENFJ got "stuck" doing her own work -- she wanted someone who wanted to do the work with her. In the absence of that, she had to do it herself -- that would have been her second choice, but it's hardly a disaster. Sometimes you don't want to have to force or coerce another person; it's not worth it. The only time it comes down to that is if you know for fact you cannot meet deadline without help, and then things crisp up, right? Then things become more directive.
The ISFJ was a bit personal for me, as I love her very, very much. It hurt to watch this happen to her. Let's assume her name is "Sara austin".
Our ISTJs, with no knowledge of typology, have taken to calling out the other ISFJs in our organizations as "Oh god, it's another Sara Austin". She has become a symbol of a group of people who are considered in ineffectual and useless. Typological classification, without any MBTI test needed-yet they only apply the label to the ISFJs....
Wrt the enfj, I guess it is about efficiency and where that individuals time is best spent. She wasted time...and thus money...indirectly requesting help. Then even more money was wasted as she spent her time doing work that could have been delegated....an opportunity cost as she got stuck doing some fairly trivial tasks involving labeling, when she could have been better utilized interacting with customers...
another cool example...we will have a large meeting...30 folks from diverse departments. Everyone is expected to speak up and form a final working path forward. Meeting minutes are taken, tasks assigned and we all begin work. The ISFJs will go back to their department, share the task, then be redirected by their manager to do things differently from the meeting. Thus a week later we all remeet to find out they not only made no progress, but that we all wasted our efforts working in a direction that their group has decided not to follow....a Te user would have explained directly why the direction chosen was important and should be maintained, but the isfjs will tend to allow the manager to redirect...
For more fun, the same meeting example above, but an ESFJ will actually say nothing...but then later meet one on one with executive management and force a replanning of an entire project....if they had spoken up at the meeting, we could have remodifed things as a group and found a way to meet their needs....but indirectly it ends up a train wreck wasting 30 individuals times 40 hours=at least $30,000 for each week this happens.
Another way I see Fe indirectness is that EXTPs will not speak up over Te doms and auxes in meetings...or they will soften the message to the point that the Te dom aux has no idea how very severe the issue is...thus does nothing to address it. The ENTP ends up frustrated..."how can they not see how badly we need new resource?" The Te dom is oblivious to there ever being a need for resources as all they saw was Fe mannerisms that seemed very amiable with no sense of urgency.
Even worse is if you stack a Te dom/aux over a manager who is Fe aux...the Fe user uses indirect terms or tried to put the Te dom at ease...forgetting to emphasize the project is a giant FAIL. The Te dom goes apeshit when he gets a very direct version from an INTJ.
The ENTPs think the ENFPs are reactionary and not to be trusted. The ENFPs think the EXTPs are backstabbing and playing at politics.
An ENFP came to me the other day and told me that she was tired of an ESTP "telling her about her feelings. I dont care how she feels, I need the work done". I just laughed as I recognized the ESTP was legitimately trying to convey an issue in Fe terms.......it is craziness.
My ENTP and I just sit and watch the patterns unfold...we have learned to predict what will happen...