Galaxy Gazer
New member
- Joined
- Dec 27, 2015
- Messages
- 941
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
I love posts like this!!!
For friendships
INTPs, in my experiences, make the best friends. They don't expect you to always talk or hang out, and they are extremely loyal and supportive. Plus, I can talk about deep or obscure things with them and actually stay on topic. INTPs have been the only people who seem genuinely interested in what I have to say. Then again, there is about a 50% chance that I am one, so that might be why.
I've had a few INFJ acquaintances, but never a close INFJ friend. They seem to pretty much all have their cliques based on things like fandoms and political views. They're also very outgoing (not sure how they're even considered introverts sometimes) and my INFJ "friends" often preferred to go out and meet new people while I stayed in. That's only the negative stuff, though. They're also very easy to talk to and they rarely get offended. I like that I don't really have to watch what I say with them.
I have made friends with a lot of INFPs, but those friendships never last long. Usually what happens is I talk to them in school because everyone else sort of intimidates me, I realize they are a bit rude and inconsiderate (and most people dislike them as a result) but ignore it and try to be friends with them for a few months until I find out that they have secretly hated me the entire time. Not fun. I don't know why everyone sees INFPs as these harmless teary-eyed cupcakes. A lot of them are vicious.
I've found that INTJs make difficult but ultimately reliable friends. Sure, they'll get in random pissy moods and talk behind your back, but at the end of the day they're the only people who will trash-talk anyone with you. My high school frenemy was an INTJ. Our friendship was largely based on a mutual hatred for a group of ESFJs. We also both liked MBTI stuff.
I have one ESFP friend. She is great when I just want to go places, play games, etc. with another person, but we don't really talk other than that.
For relationships
My boyfriend is an ISTP. We fought a lot at the beginning (just typical sensing vs. intuitive stuff) but we've sort of moved past that. The only real obstacle we have is that neither of us handles stress well. He gets mad and I get really anxious. Overall, though, we're super happy. We're into most of the same stuff and love spending time together. It's been 8 months, we're moving in together soon, and I wouldn't be shocked if he turns out to be "the one."
I've dated two INTPs (one online, one in real life) and almost had something with another. Relationships (and friendships, for that matter) with INTPs are therapeutic for me at first, but somehow we always end up running into the problem of being aggressively indecisive. Something along the lines of: "Where do you want to go?" "I don't care; you pick." "I don't care either. It's up to you." "We can go wherever." Also it complicates things when both people need a lot of alone time.
I've had a relationship with an INTJ and one with an ENTJ. I was extremely infatuated with each of them and they both ended up taking advantage of this and then moving on. Both were very one-sided and I don't think I'd go out with another NTJ, or any TJ for that matter.
Sorry if the last few parts don't make much sense. It's 3am and I can feel my IQ dropping.
For friendships
INTPs, in my experiences, make the best friends. They don't expect you to always talk or hang out, and they are extremely loyal and supportive. Plus, I can talk about deep or obscure things with them and actually stay on topic. INTPs have been the only people who seem genuinely interested in what I have to say. Then again, there is about a 50% chance that I am one, so that might be why.
I've had a few INFJ acquaintances, but never a close INFJ friend. They seem to pretty much all have their cliques based on things like fandoms and political views. They're also very outgoing (not sure how they're even considered introverts sometimes) and my INFJ "friends" often preferred to go out and meet new people while I stayed in. That's only the negative stuff, though. They're also very easy to talk to and they rarely get offended. I like that I don't really have to watch what I say with them.
I have made friends with a lot of INFPs, but those friendships never last long. Usually what happens is I talk to them in school because everyone else sort of intimidates me, I realize they are a bit rude and inconsiderate (and most people dislike them as a result) but ignore it and try to be friends with them for a few months until I find out that they have secretly hated me the entire time. Not fun. I don't know why everyone sees INFPs as these harmless teary-eyed cupcakes. A lot of them are vicious.
I've found that INTJs make difficult but ultimately reliable friends. Sure, they'll get in random pissy moods and talk behind your back, but at the end of the day they're the only people who will trash-talk anyone with you. My high school frenemy was an INTJ. Our friendship was largely based on a mutual hatred for a group of ESFJs. We also both liked MBTI stuff.
I have one ESFP friend. She is great when I just want to go places, play games, etc. with another person, but we don't really talk other than that.
For relationships
My boyfriend is an ISTP. We fought a lot at the beginning (just typical sensing vs. intuitive stuff) but we've sort of moved past that. The only real obstacle we have is that neither of us handles stress well. He gets mad and I get really anxious. Overall, though, we're super happy. We're into most of the same stuff and love spending time together. It's been 8 months, we're moving in together soon, and I wouldn't be shocked if he turns out to be "the one."
I've dated two INTPs (one online, one in real life) and almost had something with another. Relationships (and friendships, for that matter) with INTPs are therapeutic for me at first, but somehow we always end up running into the problem of being aggressively indecisive. Something along the lines of: "Where do you want to go?" "I don't care; you pick." "I don't care either. It's up to you." "We can go wherever." Also it complicates things when both people need a lot of alone time.
I've had a relationship with an INTJ and one with an ENTJ. I was extremely infatuated with each of them and they both ended up taking advantage of this and then moving on. Both were very one-sided and I don't think I'd go out with another NTJ, or any TJ for that matter.
Sorry if the last few parts don't make much sense. It's 3am and I can feel my IQ dropping.