Fixing things, I mean physical things like sinks and cabinets, but I don't think that's very INFJish...
Cool! I always thought it was my S side coming out a bit. I love assembling furniture and stuff too... it's very satisfying to see something go from parts to whole or broken to fixed just by your own efforts.Oh, ooooh, I love fixing things! And assembling furniture and stuff like that...the more parts, the more tricky it is, the better.
Awww. Do hugs help?
For me, some things that make me fundamentally happy are:
Having a small network of close friends/family who really understand me and who are there for me when I need them, but who also understand my need for alone time.
Making real connections with people... they don't necessarily have to become close friends, but being part of a community of like-minded people is nice, even a peripheral part.
Having time to myself to recharge.
Feeling like I make a difference, even in a small way.
Standing up in something I believe in and causing even one person to rethink their (misguided, in my opinion ) stance on an issue.
Learning new things.
Fixing things, I mean physical things like sinks and cabinets, but I don't think that's very INFJish...
DC Metro is a hard place to live sometimes, for sure. Better if you come here with a family already.
The girl across the pond is something to do while you're getting ready to get ready to actually have a relationship. Don't worry too much about those things (long distance stuff). They take care of themselves. I think you should spend more time with actual women, even if you think you're cheating them because they're second best to some girl across the pond. I think it's nuts to tie yourself down in a situation like that, especially at your age.
Wanna know what else I think, huh, do ya? Just ask me, go ahead ...
It very well might be nuts, but authenticity is paramount to me (and it seems INFJs in general)... so I can't ignore very authentic feelings for her even though the situation is inconvenient to us both, nor float inauthentic feelings to local women just to satisfy cuddly needs =P Plus, even if I did meet someone genuine locally, I'll have to feel guilty about having woo'd the other girl as far as I have, just to snap our connection? Violates my sense of ethics.
I'm more or less wondering how to feel happy ALONE in the meantime.
Have you and the long-distance girl ever spent any time in person together? If not, my advice would be to arrange a visit before making any long term decisions like "I am going to save myself for this girl even if I do meet someone local that I like" or "Long distance isn't going to work, I'm going to give up on it."
Hmmm, I believe that you know her well, but I'd still say you should make a few visits, whether you go there or she comes here, before you make a permanent move...
Plus that could help "tide you over" while you figure out employment if you move there.
Oh, geez... yeah, I went on so long in the 'convos' bit that I forgot the original point that she was open to the idea of my coming over for 'Tea' ... but not JUST for her; like if I were already swinging through for vacation or something. Problem is, she's just about the only thing in Europe I find interesting =P
Another notion is that it would be easy for her to get a tourist VISA and spent some time 'crashing' around the states, including with me, for an 'extended' vacation of her own. A few weeks, a month or two... feasible and affordable, but still kinda weird. I haven't mentioned it.
Oh okay good.
Do I guess correctly from your avatar that you are a photographer?
Off the wall goofy conversations with those I've allowed into my exclusive friend circle.
And hugs! Though I'm pretty picky about who I partake with. If they arent on the allowed list, then it's just awkward.
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I think the worst of the issue is that having been transplanted again, I don't have any inner circle people left (at least, living close enough to ever see them; can still talk online), and it's not all that easy for INFJs to meet new ones. Somehow, for the time being, I have to be entirely self-powered (hence the question.)