For the record, I would much, much rather have been physically bullied as a child than the verbal bullying I got. That's probably weird, but I never minded getting banged up.
I'm probably misunderstanding you, I guess I'm just bristling a little at you saying that being intentionally mean to people is "nothing to worry about".
Well, I guess I've always been able to sort of ignore a verbal insult, because I know the following:
1. Reacting badly to it is what they want me to do, and it won't do me any good.
2. I may be able to use it to guilt them later on.
3. Even if they don't like me, I can use it to make them look bad.
4. If I don't react to it, and the person is a bully, they're less likely to continue to pursue that course of action if it doesn't successfully agitate me.
So when someone insults me, they're not really hurting me... now, attacking me on the other hand would be a frightening problem.
It's probably the difference between Ni and Se. You're a lot more sensitive than I would have thought. I'll have to reconsider my idea of SP's as aggressive... because what's aggressive to me is nothing to them, and what's nothing to me is aggressive to them. Amazing that two people could be so different.
Come to think of it, I seem much more bothered when I see someone hurting another person's feelings than when someone attacks me personally. (although I don't really care for either.)