Yeah I can see how I did not articulate quite as fluently as I could have
What the situation is .. it seems the INFJ has not taken repsonisbily at all for her role in the breakdown of our friendship.
And some of her behavior after the breakdown, might be a reaction to my reaction of the breakdown.
My reaction was to take actions and make some decisions that would suggest I don't care at all what she thinks or feels, But that might be the whole point..
I don't want her to know how upset I might be or even how sorry I might be.
Instead I would rather show that I can grow without her.
Which made my whole point to your point .. that behavior can't always be taken at face value.
And that, while you are wishing someone ill will for what appears on the surface. maybe there is deeper meaning for their behavior.. maybe they are doing it for you, not against you.
It's possible that whatever happened between you and the other person was a catalytic moment in their life and their growth and any subsequent success might be result of that.