Was talking about wonka, not you. I was agreeing with you, partially.
Oops, sorry dude. I jumped the gun.
I've already given you my opinion on the matter. You just didn't listen.
Look again.
http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/1340048-post284.html
I don't really like that advice. It gives
some ENFPs a rationalization to just act crazy. I don't find that acceptable whatsoever.
And I surely don't want to be told something like Wonka was saying in his OP. It basically reduces to "when I act crazy, just give in, that way, you'll avoid me getting all pissed about you not agreeing with the first thing I was pissed about!" That kind of reasoning sets a horrible precedent, and I think giving into people like that just makes them worse.
I act super chill around most people most of the time. When I get irrational, I apologize, I don't tell people to just deal with it. That just does added damage, and is totally narcissistic.
The only people I don't act chill around are people that manipulate others into being chill around them! If a person can't provide worthwhile companionship for someone, they shouldn't guilt trip their way into a relationship with them. If they really want respect, they have to earn it like anyone else.
Being an ENFP has absolutely nothing to do with this (except maybe a surface level correlation). Type is useless in this discussion.
For the sake of the rest of the ENFPs, I'm trying really hard to separate Wonka out. His point in the OP makes ENFPs look bad -- when really he should've kept it as a personal thing.
This is where people fall into the MBTI trap and miss the big picture.
Back on track:
I see a serious disparity between those who are searching primarily for acceptance/love/sharing/understanding even if it means not necessarily being straight-forward and those who are searching primarily for truth/honesty/solutions even if it means temporary strife.
Or have I got it wrong?
There really shouldn't be a disparity. In order to get true love from someone, you have to be open to your own shortcomings (and blindness to them, and bias against believing them). If you can't take a little criticism, you'll always wonder why you can't find "true love".
It's not all sunshine and rainbows.