I don't think it is about control.
From what I understand introverts' brains have a high level of chemical stimulation and it doesn't take too much to overload them. They withdraw because they literally feel overwhelmed by more than a small amount of human interaction. Extroverts' brains are not as naturally stimulated so must seek out others to induce that chemical reaction.
I read the article you posted and I agree with that as well. I've very easily overly-stimulated and will just shut down after just a small amount of human interaction. I love to talk with good friends and can do that for an undetermined amount of time (usually several hours) before I literally can't go on. My friends have said: "I see the shades are drawn--your eyes are open but there's no one there." Even the slightest stimulation will have me off into ideas or fantasies. I love interaction but absolutely need to take a lot of time to process what I've heard or seen. I love it when a friend will let me go off to recharge while we're still talking or driving or whatever. I'll listen, nod, look at the window, and they'll know I'll come back eventually or need to go home. I can listen while recharging. It's talking for too long a time that exhausts me.
Last edited: