Sometimes I find myself in a very irrationally irritated mood. It has nothing to do with anything specifically, its everything. Its people, life, rules, trends, egos, time, restrictions, changes, expectations, brains, preferences, society, animals, walls. You get the idea.
Its feels restricting, and somewhat self caging. During these times, if you experience irritation, how do you bring yourself back to your happy place?
And don't say meditation!
I have been known to suffer these moods. If I think about what causes them, I can connect it to an eruption of the inferior and the triggers for that. The classic example is doing taxes - I am about as irrationally irritated as a person can be. It can be a trifling annoyance that might push me into this while at other times when big and important things are happening, I'm the calm in the storm. If a driver in front of me does something really stupid it can annoy me a great deal and it colors my attitude for 5 minutes afterwards. If I'm stuck in traffic, sometimes I start pounding on the steering wheel (like that's going to help).
I have found some things that are related to this.
1. Stress causes it to be more likely this to happen
2. Eruption of inferior triggers for your type
3. Being tired and have not had enough sleep
4. I'm thinking or absorbed in something and interrupted
5. You're upset about something and it carries over to something else
6. You're replaying some behavior in a particular situation that your mother played when you were a child
7. For me, this was at its worst when I was in my late 20s and early 30s - it might have been a particularly stressful period
How to avoid it or reduce it?
1. Get sleep (most important thing)
2. Do things that get the "feel happy" hormones going through your bloodstream - there were a bunch of things mentioned - exercise, sex, etc. Fall in love with someone. I think that makes you feel better too.
3. Vent to a person you can trust and ask their opinion (works for a 6 anyway)
4. Listen to your feelings - seek to better understand your own behavior and actions - what triggered the emotions that are causing you to behave the way you do. Then think about the effect that your behaviors have related this has on your interactions with others. How would you perceive yourself if you were them?
5. Catch yourself engaging in these behaviors and stop the behavior because it can make you feel bad and them bad
"People won't remember what you said. They won't remember what you did. They will however never forget how you made them feel"