PalebloodHunter
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Hey, guys. I hope this post doesn't come across as cheesy but I really think I'm at my wits end here. I'm a 24 year old ENTP and quit my corporate job few months ago to turn to writing for videogames. I had also just cut off from a relationship with a sociopath. One day, I took an UberPOOL and ended up sharing it with this gorgeous woman. Now, I was nervous for a while and wanted to strike a conversation. However, she seemed unsure about her destination. I figured she was new to town and asked her that, she said she was. Then I also noticed the familiarity of her accent and soon enough, discovered we were from the same home town. Thanks to the horrible traffic conditions of my city, We were stuck with what ended up in a deep conversation. She is a fashion designer with her own brand who came to the city to study the retail aspect of it all. Soon, she got off and I hit myself in the head because I forgot to take her number down.
However, I had friends in her college and so sent my ninja squad on an assignment to gather info about her. With luck, I finally found her profile on FB and sent her a request. To my surprise, she accepted! (within the span of a few days, however). Further to my surprise, she actually replied when i texted her in a really friendly manner that translated straight from the discussion we had in the cab. I found out she was an INFP and it did fit, since she always seemed shy and reserved when we talked. Also, she had this annoying habbit of just dying off midway through a conversation. After a while, I just thought she wasn't interested. So, as a 21st century gentleman, I decided to give the lady some space and resort to simple online stalking. It appeared that we had a lot of shared interests, since she herself messaged after a while and we had a nice healthy chat... which lasted few weeks before she died again. I asked what was up, and she replied that "she needed some time alone since she was going through a divorce." Surely, nothing unusual. I made it a point to give her some space.
We soon resumed talking again. I found out she liked painting and wanted to see her work, so she herself asked for my number so she could show them. We then started getting a lot closer and she'd often jump from small talk to deep philosophical topics with little connection between the two. She apparently loves "words" and really liked the way I'd put things into perspective (I guess I am a good writer lol). We seemed totally comfortable with each other, I even told her I heard her talk to herself back in the cab to which she embarrassingly admitted that she does that a lot. She also said that she felt a special connection with me, though she was awfully surprised when I told her I was 24 since I seemed older to her (she herself is approaching 30). She also admitted that she had been stalking me for a good while now. At this point we decided to meet. We had breakfast at this really quiet place with a lot of books and jazz music. She loved it. We then spent the whole day together and for drinks I took her to this place where I could mix my own cocktails since I knew the guys there well, I mixed her a smoked drink since she had a sore throat due to cold. She said she appreciated all of that and ended up talking for hours. At this point things took a tragic turn, I found out that she had lost her mother at an early age and her dad had remarried. She had issues with her stepmother and her dad too passed away few years ago. She had married in her early twenties and has a daughter. But, her husband would always abuse her and apparently had an extra-marital affair too. Her daughter stays with him.
I tried my best to comfort her. We switched topics and soon she back to her laughing self. She eventually cozied up to me, held hands and just leaned over me when we took a cab back. We decided to take a little walk where she'd keep asking what was on my mind. Eventually, it all just boiled up and I ended up telling her how I felt. She was surprised in that she didn't expect me to say that after all she told about herself. I told her I didn't care. She still persisted and that was when I pulled her close and gave her a kiss. She was flabbergasted and said that she's more used to chasing people and this was a first for her. We decided to walk a little more. When all of a sudden she just said she will meet me tomorrow. We called it a day.
And then she died... again :|. For 4 straight days I texted her and she wouldn't reply. It drove me mad. I called her and she wouldn't pick up. So, I sent her a voice text and asked her to tell me if she didn't want to talk, because I needed to know. Finally, I got a reply which said that she thinks she shouldn't engage because she doesn't think it will go anywhere so best end it right here. I just asked her that I wanted to talk and did not like this silent treatment. She then said that she was sorry for that but she just does not want to do this. She didn't come to the city for a relationship and has to get her stuff sorted.
I mean... I kinda got it :\... I jumped the gun a bit too early. Maybe she thinks I'll eventually flake. So, I told her that I really liked talking to her and enjoyed her company and more of it... even if it meant as a friend for now. We could take things slowly. But, I got no further reply.
This post is all jumbled and is a lot to take in I guess. But, I really am at the edge. This girl is the nicest person I've met and actually seemed interested in even the most mundane things about me. (especially coming off a relationship with a sociopath) I can't give up on her but I'm completely blank right now. It's the first time I'm resorting to the web for help. So, wise ones... please tell me how do I get rid of my anxiety?
However, I had friends in her college and so sent my ninja squad on an assignment to gather info about her. With luck, I finally found her profile on FB and sent her a request. To my surprise, she accepted! (within the span of a few days, however). Further to my surprise, she actually replied when i texted her in a really friendly manner that translated straight from the discussion we had in the cab. I found out she was an INFP and it did fit, since she always seemed shy and reserved when we talked. Also, she had this annoying habbit of just dying off midway through a conversation. After a while, I just thought she wasn't interested. So, as a 21st century gentleman, I decided to give the lady some space and resort to simple online stalking. It appeared that we had a lot of shared interests, since she herself messaged after a while and we had a nice healthy chat... which lasted few weeks before she died again. I asked what was up, and she replied that "she needed some time alone since she was going through a divorce." Surely, nothing unusual. I made it a point to give her some space.
We soon resumed talking again. I found out she liked painting and wanted to see her work, so she herself asked for my number so she could show them. We then started getting a lot closer and she'd often jump from small talk to deep philosophical topics with little connection between the two. She apparently loves "words" and really liked the way I'd put things into perspective (I guess I am a good writer lol). We seemed totally comfortable with each other, I even told her I heard her talk to herself back in the cab to which she embarrassingly admitted that she does that a lot. She also said that she felt a special connection with me, though she was awfully surprised when I told her I was 24 since I seemed older to her (she herself is approaching 30). She also admitted that she had been stalking me for a good while now. At this point we decided to meet. We had breakfast at this really quiet place with a lot of books and jazz music. She loved it. We then spent the whole day together and for drinks I took her to this place where I could mix my own cocktails since I knew the guys there well, I mixed her a smoked drink since she had a sore throat due to cold. She said she appreciated all of that and ended up talking for hours. At this point things took a tragic turn, I found out that she had lost her mother at an early age and her dad had remarried. She had issues with her stepmother and her dad too passed away few years ago. She had married in her early twenties and has a daughter. But, her husband would always abuse her and apparently had an extra-marital affair too. Her daughter stays with him.
I tried my best to comfort her. We switched topics and soon she back to her laughing self. She eventually cozied up to me, held hands and just leaned over me when we took a cab back. We decided to take a little walk where she'd keep asking what was on my mind. Eventually, it all just boiled up and I ended up telling her how I felt. She was surprised in that she didn't expect me to say that after all she told about herself. I told her I didn't care. She still persisted and that was when I pulled her close and gave her a kiss. She was flabbergasted and said that she's more used to chasing people and this was a first for her. We decided to walk a little more. When all of a sudden she just said she will meet me tomorrow. We called it a day.
And then she died... again :|. For 4 straight days I texted her and she wouldn't reply. It drove me mad. I called her and she wouldn't pick up. So, I sent her a voice text and asked her to tell me if she didn't want to talk, because I needed to know. Finally, I got a reply which said that she thinks she shouldn't engage because she doesn't think it will go anywhere so best end it right here. I just asked her that I wanted to talk and did not like this silent treatment. She then said that she was sorry for that but she just does not want to do this. She didn't come to the city for a relationship and has to get her stuff sorted.
I mean... I kinda got it :\... I jumped the gun a bit too early. Maybe she thinks I'll eventually flake. So, I told her that I really liked talking to her and enjoyed her company and more of it... even if it meant as a friend for now. We could take things slowly. But, I got no further reply.
This post is all jumbled and is a lot to take in I guess. But, I really am at the edge. This girl is the nicest person I've met and actually seemed interested in even the most mundane things about me. (especially coming off a relationship with a sociopath) I can't give up on her but I'm completely blank right now. It's the first time I'm resorting to the web for help. So, wise ones... please tell me how do I get rid of my anxiety?