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Haha, thanks. How did it touch a nerve? Have you been in a similar situation in the past?
I think with dating, there is a lot of confusion, and when people are confused, they feel like the other person is playing games when really the other person is just as confused. It's just that there's so much potential for bliss on the one hand, countered by so much potential for hurt, that it creates a lot of neuroticism and confusion as people can't decide whether to risk everything in hopes of getting to the bliss, or whether to withdraw and protect themselves from getting hurt.
I dated an INFP. A Mama's boy. I can list all of the things he did wrong, but I know I'm not perfect. I didn't know then, what I know now. After reading this thread I'm quite sure I'm the root cause. I clearly didn't respond appropriately to his emotional cues in the beginning and it snowballed into him distrusting and resenting me for it. The nail in the coffin was when I found out he was going to my NF Mother for advice (behind my back, while he had me in isolation)... so, to top off the isolation, I had no privacy. It was my worst nightmare of a relationship. What I'm calling isolation looks very similar to what I pointed out as games in Bessie's original post.
lol, it wasn't a relationship.