There is this male ENFP I know who I met over the summer, and I have found him really cute since I met him. He currently is attending a school that I am going to transfer to next year (just so you know, no, I am not a stalker and am not transferring to be with him. We met at a function that is associated with this school, after I already had been considering it.) I sometimes wonder if he doesn't also possibly like me, but I really don't need any false hope so I want some other opinions on this.
It may help to note that he is normally a very charismatic and emotionally open ENFP, and I have an unfortunate tendency to become very closed off and present the worst parts of myself to the people who I most admire.
About a month after the first week I got to know him, he initiated I conversation with me via the internet because he wanted to get to know me better, but eventually when I turned the attention from myself to him, he dropped it and never answered. Some months later when I was visiting the school he attends, he spotted me and seemed very excited to see me. Because I had sort of been dreading the idea of running into him, I just said hi and went on my way, but 5 minutes later he found me and started a very long and awkward conversation in which I was extremely withdrawn due to feeling shy and he was feeling obviously insecure and nervous. He eventually apologized for never responding in our previous conversation over the internet and used the excuse that he thinks he is better at communicating with people in real life. There was a lot of awkward silence and him self-consciously commenting on the awkward aspects of the conversation that he was contributing (not being able to finish sentences, starting on tangents about random subjects that seem to come out of nowhere, etc.) At the end of this conversation he told me very energetically that he would find me before I leave and take me on an adventure or something, which never happened. A week later I sent him a message on Facebook apologizing for being so standoffish. He adamantly denied that he thought I was being standoffish and said that he loved the conversation, and then said he would talk to me soon. I don't know if he was referring to my plan to transfer the next semester or if he actually intended to call/message me etc. In any case, that was about 4 months ago. 2 weeks ago he texted me asking if I was at his school yet. Because he had my number but I didn't have his, I was unsure who it was at first, but then quickly guessed, and told him I had to change my mind about transferring so soon and would transfer in the Fall. He never responded.
I know that sometimes ENFPs get really awkward and weird around their crushes, so I am flattering myself by thinking that might be what this is. He told me in the earlier parts of our friendship(?) that he thought I was "fascinating," "pretty," and that he liked it when I smiled. I basically deflected most of these early compliments, because he is naturally affectionate towards people and I was trying not to take it personally. After a while the "pretty lady" turned into "dear friend" and during our long awkward conversation at his school he randomly added, as he was explaining why he is so friendly to all people (because I had wanted to know if he behaved this way with everyone, and it is hard for me to comprehend how he doesn't get tired) that he was trying to get to know me not because he wanted to woo me and marry me, but because he believes he has something to learn from all people. I didn't think I seemed like I thought that he wanted to woo me and marry me, but okay. This combined with the issue of him making extravagant promises to me every time we meet about taking me on adventures and getting to know me (and then never following through,) make me think that there is little hope, and that I am just another number in his infinite list of people who he theoretically likes.
He frustrates me a lot but I still think his personality is extremely cute and I can't deny that I am interested in him, although I have tried not to give him any clue of this. What do you guys think about my chances?
It may help to note that he is normally a very charismatic and emotionally open ENFP, and I have an unfortunate tendency to become very closed off and present the worst parts of myself to the people who I most admire.
About a month after the first week I got to know him, he initiated I conversation with me via the internet because he wanted to get to know me better, but eventually when I turned the attention from myself to him, he dropped it and never answered. Some months later when I was visiting the school he attends, he spotted me and seemed very excited to see me. Because I had sort of been dreading the idea of running into him, I just said hi and went on my way, but 5 minutes later he found me and started a very long and awkward conversation in which I was extremely withdrawn due to feeling shy and he was feeling obviously insecure and nervous. He eventually apologized for never responding in our previous conversation over the internet and used the excuse that he thinks he is better at communicating with people in real life. There was a lot of awkward silence and him self-consciously commenting on the awkward aspects of the conversation that he was contributing (not being able to finish sentences, starting on tangents about random subjects that seem to come out of nowhere, etc.) At the end of this conversation he told me very energetically that he would find me before I leave and take me on an adventure or something, which never happened. A week later I sent him a message on Facebook apologizing for being so standoffish. He adamantly denied that he thought I was being standoffish and said that he loved the conversation, and then said he would talk to me soon. I don't know if he was referring to my plan to transfer the next semester or if he actually intended to call/message me etc. In any case, that was about 4 months ago. 2 weeks ago he texted me asking if I was at his school yet. Because he had my number but I didn't have his, I was unsure who it was at first, but then quickly guessed, and told him I had to change my mind about transferring so soon and would transfer in the Fall. He never responded.
I know that sometimes ENFPs get really awkward and weird around their crushes, so I am flattering myself by thinking that might be what this is. He told me in the earlier parts of our friendship(?) that he thought I was "fascinating," "pretty," and that he liked it when I smiled. I basically deflected most of these early compliments, because he is naturally affectionate towards people and I was trying not to take it personally. After a while the "pretty lady" turned into "dear friend" and during our long awkward conversation at his school he randomly added, as he was explaining why he is so friendly to all people (because I had wanted to know if he behaved this way with everyone, and it is hard for me to comprehend how he doesn't get tired) that he was trying to get to know me not because he wanted to woo me and marry me, but because he believes he has something to learn from all people. I didn't think I seemed like I thought that he wanted to woo me and marry me, but okay. This combined with the issue of him making extravagant promises to me every time we meet about taking me on adventures and getting to know me (and then never following through,) make me think that there is little hope, and that I am just another number in his infinite list of people who he theoretically likes.
He frustrates me a lot but I still think his personality is extremely cute and I can't deny that I am interested in him, although I have tried not to give him any clue of this. What do you guys think about my chances?