Vizzy
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That's very interesting - thanks for sharing. I agree with plain not being able to connect with others, often. But that could be for some very simple reasons. Some people just won't click with you. Some will.My motives for not trusting people too much are more or less the same. I always think that, on the long term, everybody (including myself) can betray, fail or abandon those that depend on him/her. So detaching from people is a way to prepare myself for the end of the relationship, which will happen sooner or later.
I've had indeed very strong and exclusive friendships that I put above the rest of my relationships (that's why I know that I'm Sx first, and not So, for example), but there's always been some caution in the background; the thought that, no matter how strong these relationships would look, at the end I was really on my own.
Many times, however, the distance I put between people and myself it's not even the result of mistrust; it's just that I'm unable to connect with them. If I have no problem with one-night stands, it's not because I'm comfortable with sex; it's because I see sex in itself just as a mechanical act, no feelings involved. When it comes to "love talking", flirting or the like, I feel extremely awkward. But I suppose this has more to do with the general inability of type 5's to handle feelings, rather than with sp instinct.
We can perhaps boil it down to human nature.
Approaching sex as a mechanical act. That's where we differ greatly, it seems. Does it have something to do with our different wings? Does it even matter?
If anyone could shed some light onto this, that'd be great.