I don't make lists about the must have's or deal breakers, so it's not conscious. Everyone is imperfect. For me, it's entirely intuitive. In the past, this intuition has lead me astray. Still, no regrets, as the two men I was most involved with were very good people, just not the best for me as they weren't intuitive and we had difficulty speaking the same language. Now that I've had time to reflect, Ns really are the best for me. From past experience, I would say that I'm drawn most to: sensitivity, passion, utmost honesty and clarity, humor, offbeat, extremely independent (I love an independent thinker), someone that matches my intellect, a fellow intuitive, devoted to me, honest about how he's feeling and communicates that, whether he's angry, frustrated, bored, excited, the list goes on, loves communication and engages with me, really engages. I don't care about imperfections or if someone doesn't say something just right. It's very difficult to communicate exact meanings. It's all in the delivery, in the honest effort. So often it takes several attempts to say it the way we want to. Most of all, someone who sees that I often give too much and will, instead, give to me, as I'm not as strong as I appear.