TenebreousReflection: Fi is actually the one that creates an internal value system based on what the person thinks is right. Fe usually reacts to the Feelings as they come. INFJ's aren't usually the most concerned about social values... I adhere to them to convey my good will, but if they asked me to do something I thought was wrong, I probably wouldn't.
Let's try another question, then. Do you sort of perceive feelings by looking at or imagining a situation, and trying to picture what you would do, or is it like you have this strong, visceral sense of right and wrong that you don't even need to imagine the situation or think about the other people's feelings to understand?
When I think about it a bit more, there are a few things I do strongly believe that could be a "value system" of sorts, but they are more generic ideas like the importance of "freedom", "individuality", "honesty/authenticity" and "love".
If I'm imagining something that has not yet occurred, then I evaluate the situation and ask myself what I think the right thing to do would be (when I imagine a scenario, I usually get a feeling rsponse from it that helps guide me), but also weigh that against the results that might occur for doing it.
If I'm responding to something in the present, then how I feel tends to be pretty clear. Its like I just know that "this is what
feels like the right thing to do" and its usually an overpowering feeling. I do reflect on the feelings and try to figure out why I feel so strongly and sometimes try to rationalize the feelings, but sometimes I'll have already took action before I do that. Its usually these feelings that create the goals that I feel a strong need to pursue.
In more complicated scenarios, I know that I need to be very cautious and tactful in how I follow through to avoid causing misunderstandings that could harm or even ruin relationships and sometimes I cant think of any way to do what I think is right that would not have the risk of longterm damage to a friendship and have to wait and hope a time will come when I can follow through on what I feel I should do. When I feel like I'm treading on emotionally dangerous ground, I try to be as organized and detailed as possible with the intent of minimizing misunderstanding and sometimes go so far as trying to detach myself from the situation and describe things objectively to make my point in a more rational way. FWIW, most of these involve me feeling like I should "express my true feelings (authenticity)" when I know its "inappropriate" to do so.
I'm not concerned with what society will think, but I am very concerned how my views would be seen by the friends that my thoughts and feelings relate to.
Also, are you an organized, punctual person? Are you good at making decisions? Do you wait until the last minute to do something?
I let clutter accumulate (somewhat organized clutter, like stacks of like items, but I just put them wherever there happens to be room) until it reaches a point where its hard to find stuff, then I go through and try to apply some structure to it and go back to letting new clutter accumulate.
I'm very rarely late, and very rarely "on time". I 'm nearly always early because I like to have a buffer for things to go wrong and take corrective action if needed.
Trivial decisions (most work related stuff), its easy for me to just trust my intuition and go with the first thing that comes to mind.
Decisions that could have a longterm impact. Unless its one of those "my heart tells me to do this" instant decisions, I agonize over decisions and gather as much information as possible to be sure I'm making an informed decision and unless somewhere along the process I get a moment where everything seems to click together and the answer becomes clear ("oh, duh, how could I have even considered anythgin else"), I second guess my decisions quite often until I see how they play out. I feel like I
should trust my intuition more since I nearly always reach the same conclusion as my first guess, but its hard for me to do on important matters.
If its something I don't want to do, then I will procrastinate till the last minute. If its something I want to do, I usually take immediate action.