thanks for all the information guys
i think i have a good idea now how Ti, Fi, Fe and Te work.
i do have a select few of friends who i'm comfortable with. i am quite good at social situations with strangers at this point in my life. i really wasn't before, but i've grown into it. i've learned how to behave properly and that's probably Fe in action. also, i think a big part of it is me being more comfortable with myself. i don't worry what other people think of me anymore. i am who i am and i'm not as worried about making mistakes as i was when i was younger.
i also dislike fakeness. i know i have to play by the rules in social settings, but i always make sure i am real and true to myself. i have a couple of core values i operate with... the first one is that life matters, the second one is that everyone is equal and the third one is that everyone has got something to give. those are my values and i suppose that's Fi in action... (these are processes, but the core stays stable. i also keep my distance, until i realize that i am in a situation where i need to engage... that's probably what i meant earlier when i said that i can sense if someone is in need of something. also, i have learned how important it is to be discreet with people. i never want to make a fuss.)
Ti, for me, is how things work. i have my thinking to keep me grounded (and to give me back to me), even though my life to outsiders might seem disorganized. to me, it is organized in my brain. Ne is the imagination, the how it could be, the fuel to Ti and the spice to life.
eta: Lauren, i understand what you're talking about and that's how i also operate with people. in relationships you don't really need verification. it's the feelings and what unravels that matter. in the end it's up to the individual alone.
editing again to add another thing... what i meant earlier about getting lost in feeling and then sort of contradicted myself when i said that i'm not dreamy... i suppose it's that i can get into that place, especially with art and in nature... but i don't live there. does that make any sense?