Heh you ESTP's are so balls out hardcore though.. ;D
In our case the "S" stands for "Stubborn." We can't back down, it's not in our DNA.
I'm not sure I'm exactly the same. I relate to much of what you said about seeing an offense, and stopping them. I do believe in facing things head on.. But are you willing to settle with them remaining enemies?
Yeah, sure, once the fight is over I can be civil with them if they are up to it. Quick to anger, quick to forgive. That's been the case in every throw down I've been in, next time you see the guy it's over, you just nod to each other and that's that, it's over, you give each other space and common respect for having the wherewithall to go through with it, and move on.
I'm never good at that. It seems like an ESTP could leave them on the floor once you're done.
Even if I elevate things to conflict, I'm always trying to improve the situation afterwards in some way. "Sorry I did that, but.." "Sorry I said that, but.." I still look for some harmony and all that.
But if it's just some random D-bag that really overstepped their boundaries, I see no need to reconcile whatsoever, they got what they asked for, and should consider it a lesson of how to improve themselves.
Additionally, one time I got my ass kicked severely - like big size 15 cowboy boots to the face and balls -- and I deserved it in this case -- but thing was, the whole time I was laughing. Pissed the guy off even more. I'm laughing about it now. But I wonder if that's a "ESFP/Performer" thing. Or am I just fucked up?
WHOA!
You really screwed with that dude's mind by laughing at him while he walloped you. That takes guts, good for you! That reminds me of Daniel Craig in the James Bond movie where it starts, and he is naked, tied to a chair with the seat cut out, and this dude is swinging a huge rope with a know on it and swings it under Bond's chair, so that the rope with its big knot and all its momentum hit Bond's balls. :horor: Bond just laughed at the guy, over and over again, it was an awesome scene.
I don't think you're fucked up, I think you have the capacity to forego the fear typically associated with physical pain. You knew it was coming, and you disengaged it. Rock on to you, Bro.
I learned the hard way that avoiding conflict for the sake of not upsetting people only prolongs it and leaves you feeling like a doormat. Sometimes people need to be upset. Sometimes you need to fly your freak flag and proudly flip everyone the birdy without shame or apology.
This. ^ Awesome reply.