Oops sorry, I got it form here
The Temperament Sorter
Oh, okay, I thougth it sounded Keirsey-like -- they must've borrowed from his descriptions. But it goes further...
Strengths of ISFPs
Bring personal values to negotiating.
(Yes, that's how you negotiate effectively. You mean other people don't? )
Will protect personal values.
(Yes!)
Until ideals are compromised, can be flexible, adaptable in negotiations.
(Absolutely!)
Very compassionate towards those who are needy.
(I hope I am. I mean, that's my ideal, and I'd be ashamed of myself if I weren't that way)
Can be effective conciliators.
(I think so...)
Will consider options/possibilities.
(yes, but who doesn't?)
Will handle difficulties in negotiations easily.
(I think so)
Weaknesses of ISFPs as Negotiators
Under stress may be critical, disparaging, disgusted with other's "stupid" ideas.
(I have a pretty high tolerance for other people's ideas unless they stomp on something I care a lot about, and then all of a sudden I think their ideas are totally worthless.)
Not good negotiators.
(wait.. I thought we WERE good negotiators? Make up your mind!)
Gentle, retiring nature makes them ineffective except in a well-structured environment.
(What?! That's ridiculous! I bet many ISFPs are self-employed and follow their own sense of timing. I don't think my world would fall apart if I didn't have a job with regular hours. Sheesh.)
Needs to be well-represented.
(Needs, or prefers? I'd hate to be ignored, but I can represent myself pretty well, and if not, I leave that particular situation.)
Because of idealism and loyalty, ISFPs will suffer considerably from separation distress.
(I honestly have no idea what they're talking about...)
Needs to wait until fully disengaged to negotiate.
(It depends on how quickly I can see a way of getting what I want AND getting them what they want.)
Goals "too perfect" to be readily achievable if the spouse is strong-willed.
(No. And my spouse is not a strong-willed bossy type, thank goodness.)
Their retiring nature may require third party intervention.
(Only in extreme circumstances, I imagine....)
Will put off coming to the table until late in process due to desire to put things off.
(What the ___?!?!? What happened to ISFPs being good troubleshooters and negotiators? How can we be both bad adn good at the samething?
Finds it difficult to express opinions strongly.
(Ha! NOPE!) (Though I do try to be nice about it. Still, others always get my drift.
How the ISFP sees Self as negotiators:
Very affirming.
Sympathetic and trusting.
Good communicator especially where values and ideals are involved.
Hard working and practical.
(Yes to all of the above.)
How Others see the ISFP as negotiators:
Difficult to negotiate with.
Won't follow divorce laws or is naive about what actual law is.
Not serious enough about negotiations.
Flaky and irresponsible.
So does the author of this mean we only think we're good at negotiation? If that's the case, then how come it's been effective whenever I've put my heart into it, then?
With type descriptions like this, no wonder many people throw up their hands in disgust. Or otherwise have a hard time finding their best type fit.
Sarah
ISFP