BerberElla
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Are NF's loyal? IME... No. They are flighty. Never have their priorities straight. For people who are so "people-orientated" a lot of them dont have many close friends.
IME Sp and Sj are far more loyal. Sticking with their true friends when they most need them. NFs are so wrapped up in themselves. I think they are the most selfish people out there. Ever talk to an NF on the phone? Garauntee the conversation will always find a way back to the NF's favorite topic.... themself.
However, NF's are prone to the "holding onto a shitty relationship way too long" syndrome. Could that even be considered loyal? It seems like something else to me. Neediness, clinginess. Not loyalty.
No, NF's can be loyal and not flighty, it just depends how much they value you, hence why they hold onto shitty relationships for so long compared to how flighty and unloyal they seem at others.
If an NF really cares about you they will be loyal and commited, but you have to have buried your way deep into their heart to get that kind of commitment, or at least that's how it is with me. (INFP)
I'm very flighty friendship wise, and only a very few have ever mattered that much to me, recently I fly before anyone can become a true friend to me because I don't want to be loyal, to care or commit to anyone.
I have wanted shallow non hurtful and quick connections. The potential to be a deeper friend is certainly there, but you have to matter.
They're also hypocrites. Will leech onto you and depend on you for everything. For emotional stability. For friendship. Will want to share their whole life with you. They want to tell you all their problems. But as soon as you need them for something, it's never as important as when THEY have a problem.
That's not true to me, but I always find the "NF" bunching wierd because not all NF's are anywhere near alike.
These are the type of people... You could save their life one day. And they next day they would end your friendship because they need to "find themself and start over".
That's an over exaggerated comment to make, if someone saved my life I wouldn't ever stop (I would hope unless they screwed it up) valuing their friendship. It's all about the value placed on the person in question. If you have connected with me in a way that makes me care, then the only time I will get rid of you is after years of you letting me down.