Oh, topic is soooooo good. I was married to an ENTJ for 9 lovely and “exciting” years. We didn’t break up, he ended up broken by a brain tumour.
FDG - taking charge of a situation when there is clearly a more competent person available for the task at hand.
Yes – and they would have to be an INTJ. At least pay attention to their careful debugging of your strategy.
Metamorphosis - more concerned with objectives than friends
Yes – but “if they had brains they’d see the logic and join me”
Mycroft - ENTJs tend to actually come right out and say all of the brash or downright rude things we INTJs think but keep to ourselves. Needless to say, I love that about them.
Yes, yes, and yes again. Every once and a while I do let it out and it IS GOOD.
Blackwater - overly focused on the 'outside' of things. sees everything in the world as tetris blocks for them to twist and turn until they fit.
Yes – no matter how much squealing can be heard, “Do I care? But where did I put the gag???”
JivinJeffJones - My only real problem with ENTJs is that relentless desire to lead everything. If they could just chill with that (in a social setting, at least) I wouldn't have a problem with them. In fact, if they could just chill period it would help a lot.
Yes (& how to compound a chill-pill) take one of their pet ideas and question one key aspect. Keeps them quiet for ages, but darn it, they put an INTJ on to the debugging
Jennifer - Just because you can DO something doesn't mean it's the right thing to do, needs to actually be done, or is the best use of everyone's time and energy.
Yes, the blindspot! It can be big and beautiful – like a black hole…..
Erm - -Act like they are superior beings, although they probably don't think they are, it still makes them alot of enemies.
Yes, and they love it. It kind of serves to validate them. (hint, don’t make opposition too explicit!)
Runvardh - Spending other people's money for their own agenda and seeing no problem with it.
Yes – his line at work was “give me the expense account number and it will join up with and my plan. It will be done yesterday. No account? How long can you hold your breath????”
Substitute - I quickly find myself going all soft and smiling at how their doing these things is just one reason why I love them them so much. They're the only ones usually, who can get real results out of me, on a personal level - when I can't get them out of myself.
Yes – I am transformed in the most wicked ways….
Mendacity - If they thought an event (like a birthday or an anniversary) should happen a certain way (he shows up with roses, they have a candle light dinner etc etc), and then it failed to happen as they imagined because they never made their expectations clear, they will get incredibly upset and yell and scream or lock themselves in a bathroom and cry. This has always bothered me.
Also, they seem to view most relationships as power struggles.
Oh yes, yes and yes. He had an ex who had disappointed him. Being an INTJ and a systems/business analyst at the time I had an eye for detail and checked and rechecked. He needed a reality check on his expectations.
Sahara
Yes they are in a delightfully masochistic way a real delight to relate to. With careful strategy we can harness them to our plans….. But it is a bit like herding cats….
Dark Razor - With a partner I'd rather like that we share a mutual event but everyone pays his part himself, so there is no ambiguous bullshit between us.
That is what probably made it a workable and delightful relationship. We had a clear idea of what and how much weight we should pull.
And now you make me PIMPL because –
Related to that: Dont say out loud EVERYTHING you are thinking, it hurts.
My late and lamented ENTJ’s favourite reprimand to himself (and me) was “Don’t put your brain on loud-speaker”.
And finally substitute’s response re generosity.
I earned a lot more than my ENTJ. I was “frugal”, he bordered on the “stingy” and his first present to me was a diver’s watch (that I still wear) that cost him more than one months salary. No strings, just unconditional love. He knew what I really needed and just went out an acted on it. Absolutely the best gift I have ever ever received.
Ahhhh. ENTJs…..a delightful challenge for any NT harness and enjoy – in my somewhat biased perception. My sentiment is showing …