Alassea
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 3w4
- Instinctual Variant
- so/sx
So I posted something similar (an honest enfp convo text) on personality cafe and got a lot of hate from...ExFPs + denial.
I was accused of narcissism even lol. So I will post here instead and this time, ask other types to answer.
ENFPs are often painted as sweet, fluffy, sunshine and irresponsible unicorns. And many people do in fact like ENFPs since we are genuinely sweet, kind and motivational (when we're in the mood.)
But are some really truly like that?
There are a lot of complaints from non-ENFPs about unhealthy ENFPs and they all have a similar correlation which I will list:
-Overly flirtatious and charming when trying to win someone over and once they're won over, get bored and move on to the next person
-Unfaithful/have commitment issues, can't text or call back, etc.
-Seduces someone taboo (or several people at the same time) just to see if they could
-Uses questionable and sometimes messed up methods just to achieve their ideals that it can come across sociopathic, basically using Fi for asshole purposes
-Uses innocent/sweet/adorable reputation to unconsciously manipulate people/get what they want
-Can be inspirational and charming for 5 minutes, but if impatient, can turn really mean with biting words
-Selfish
-Use sex to manipulate/compensate for personal insecurities
-Attention whores
The accusations are all too consistent to simply be written off as coincidence.
Many will say that any unhealthy type can exhibit the above, but ENFPs especially seem to be accused of above traits the most.
Here is an example of a discussion being held on tumblr in an ISTJ blog: An ENTJ female once talked about liking this INTP... - MBTI / Enneagram blog
So to every other type besides ENFP (fellow enfps: please zip it [I know you all don't like criticism] unless you have a dark story to tell,) have you had a similar experience or know any ENFPs like the above?
Share your dark ENFP story~
I was accused of narcissism even lol. So I will post here instead and this time, ask other types to answer.
ENFPs are often painted as sweet, fluffy, sunshine and irresponsible unicorns. And many people do in fact like ENFPs since we are genuinely sweet, kind and motivational (when we're in the mood.)
But are some really truly like that?
There are a lot of complaints from non-ENFPs about unhealthy ENFPs and they all have a similar correlation which I will list:
-Overly flirtatious and charming when trying to win someone over and once they're won over, get bored and move on to the next person
-Unfaithful/have commitment issues, can't text or call back, etc.
-Seduces someone taboo (or several people at the same time) just to see if they could
-Uses questionable and sometimes messed up methods just to achieve their ideals that it can come across sociopathic, basically using Fi for asshole purposes
-Uses innocent/sweet/adorable reputation to unconsciously manipulate people/get what they want
-Can be inspirational and charming for 5 minutes, but if impatient, can turn really mean with biting words
-Selfish
-Use sex to manipulate/compensate for personal insecurities
-Attention whores
The accusations are all too consistent to simply be written off as coincidence.
Many will say that any unhealthy type can exhibit the above, but ENFPs especially seem to be accused of above traits the most.
Here is an example of a discussion being held on tumblr in an ISTJ blog: An ENTJ female once talked about liking this INTP... - MBTI / Enneagram blog
So to every other type besides ENFP (fellow enfps: please zip it [I know you all don't like criticism] unless you have a dark story to tell,) have you had a similar experience or know any ENFPs like the above?
Share your dark ENFP story~