hmm... I know I personally have had a lot of struggles and misunderstandings and unpleasantnesses with ENFP's on the basis that they honestly feel that I'm constantly criticizing them, whilst I feel, just as strongly, that I am not. What I've found most difficult about trying to solve that situation is that, once the ENFP believes I'm critical of them and that I think I'm better than them, they read everything I say in that light, and lose all trust in there being pretty much any goodness in me as a person, so it's almost impossible for me to defend myself or set the record straight, without in fact every word I say only making the situation worse.
I'm sure it looks different from their point of view, and I'd love to be able to listen to them calmly telling me their point of view, but all I seem to get instead is a barrage of accusations and what I strongly feel are very mean spirited twistings of the things I say, to use them as evidence of what an asshole I am.
You know, like I say "I wasn't criticizing you, I didn't mean that as criticism, I meant it as encouragement, I was trying to say things aren't as bad as you think and giving you reasons to hope that you weren't doomed". But they read that as "oh, so you're saying I'm some idiot who complains about things and doesn't do anything about it? some stupid martyr to my own misery? don't you think I've tried everything? you can't ever just believe my summary of things can you, you've always got to cast doubt on my point of view..." etc etc etc
That's obviously a rather extreme example, but it illustrates the general point.
I'm aware that if I tell you that what you're seeing as a class of NT's hating and bitching and criticizing isn't necessarily what it looks like to you, that from the inside of those exchanges, things and intentions and stuff might look very different - there's a possibility that you might see that as me telling you your perceptions are wrong and therefore criticizing you. But there it is, in any case.