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One thing I seem to enjoy is 'falling in love'.
I don't know why I enjoy it- I have done it often.
However, in most ways, I relate much more to the T preference than F.
I remembered reading somewhere that INTP's and ENTP's are prone to the obsessive sort of love in their younger years.
Do other XNTP's here find that to be true?
When I meet a person I really like, I will often be willing to do anything I can to make that person happy- my way of showing love- of being the 'nice guy'.
When I was your age, I was the same. And my track record says that, whilst most people only SAY they'll do anything but are actually not capable of doing quite a lot, I really will and can do anything when there's something I want.
But these days, with kids to consider and many life lessons under my belt that serve as counterbalances to that natural self-indulgence and lack of consideration of my actions' consequences on others, I tend to hold myself back more and evaluate things.
There was, until very recently, also the deterrent of religious vows preventing me from doing anything stupid and impulsive at the cost of years of another person's life wasted. Now those vows are in question, it's a dangerous time for a person to be awesome in front of me.
I suspect though, that if I had no freakish things wrong with my body and no responsibilities like people being dependent on me, I'd still be as uncautious as I ever was before those lessons.
I feel it, oh hell do I ever feel it! But the T has set in pretty deeply on me in the last few years, and while my Fe has developed in leaps and bounds it usually manifests itself in better consideration for others (particularly the people who'd foot the cost of me leaping off to chase after a romance), while consideration of my own emotional needs (is that Fi?) has been pushed to the inferior position, according to my last indepth test. It'd take a helluva thing to get my heart out from under my head's heel.
Now, when I see the title 'NT's and love', I laugh. The hollow, cynical, hysterical and slightly insane laugh of the deeply tormented. Ha!