Yes. But I feel compelled to add: because you want to, and because he or she remembers to do the same for your needs.
It is important not to slide into doing this as a recipe just because it is the norm or the thing that people do. If you do, the lash-back from the occasional slip-up can leave you feeling deeply dehumanized.
Absolutely! Part of being in a relationship should be
wanting it! Doing things purely from habit or obligation can carry things for short periods, and honestly might occassionally happen (we all get overwhelmed and stressed), but over the long term we need to
want the result even if we purely
tolerate the action...
Example: Because I love and wish to remain with person A, and person A loves to have my company at parties, I must tolerate at least the occassional event without too much complaint
because I know it makes them happy.
Two things I see happen that insert flaws into this formula are:
- The aforementioned doing it out of obligation or not wanting to rock the boat. Intent matters! Apathy is a cruel mistress, even when it manifests in conforming to another's wishes, and eventually the lack of caring shows up.
- Doing something but inflicting consequences/strings - Either you go to the party and sulk the whole time, hoping never to be asked back, or it turns into a quid pro quo. The first actively hurts your loved one, while the second turns an act of devotion into a business deal.