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I am posting this here as I figure other NFs may come closest to recognizing what I am talking about.
I feel totally bummed out as I notice that very often as work, when it comes time to start a project, I will initiate and or be involved at first, generate some of the new ideas, or point out the need for an idea or even just be involved in formation of a new team. However very quickly other people will recognize how they can piggy back on the idea/project and gain career advancement and attention. One thing they do is intentionally begin to exclude other people from the meetings or interactions with executives or other important people.
The result is that typically I get excluded from the political silo and end up off in a corner just doing tasks nobody else wants to do. Eventually the entire silo collapses because the political people were incompetent, technically oblivious and I end up cleaning up parts of the mess and resolve the situation-although typically this earns me more of a troublemaker title than hero....
I guess a politically savy person would figure out ways to re-invite themselves to the meetings and play the system....but to be honest it just seems pointless as 1) I realize the whole project is doomed to useless failure anyways and more importantly 2) it feels like I got rejected.
So my question...I feel like I have to have others formally invite me into groups before I feel comfortable being there...like I dont belong...In spite of my loud online personality I am very hesitant to just invite myself in real life, and will even ask others to be certain they really want me there-this is parties, any new groups, projects or anything like that. If I am not playing an active role, contributing in some way, pulling more than my fair share...I feel really useless thus not wanted. Typically I will just uninvite myself to things and just wonder off and do my own thing after giving some helpful advice to those who remain behind...
does this sound totally nuts and am I being overly sensitive? Are all workplaces like this, where i have to continually fight political battles to actually be allowed to contribute on a project?
I feel totally bummed out as I notice that very often as work, when it comes time to start a project, I will initiate and or be involved at first, generate some of the new ideas, or point out the need for an idea or even just be involved in formation of a new team. However very quickly other people will recognize how they can piggy back on the idea/project and gain career advancement and attention. One thing they do is intentionally begin to exclude other people from the meetings or interactions with executives or other important people.
The result is that typically I get excluded from the political silo and end up off in a corner just doing tasks nobody else wants to do. Eventually the entire silo collapses because the political people were incompetent, technically oblivious and I end up cleaning up parts of the mess and resolve the situation-although typically this earns me more of a troublemaker title than hero....
I guess a politically savy person would figure out ways to re-invite themselves to the meetings and play the system....but to be honest it just seems pointless as 1) I realize the whole project is doomed to useless failure anyways and more importantly 2) it feels like I got rejected.
So my question...I feel like I have to have others formally invite me into groups before I feel comfortable being there...like I dont belong...In spite of my loud online personality I am very hesitant to just invite myself in real life, and will even ask others to be certain they really want me there-this is parties, any new groups, projects or anything like that. If I am not playing an active role, contributing in some way, pulling more than my fair share...I feel really useless thus not wanted. Typically I will just uninvite myself to things and just wonder off and do my own thing after giving some helpful advice to those who remain behind...
does this sound totally nuts and am I being overly sensitive? Are all workplaces like this, where i have to continually fight political battles to actually be allowed to contribute on a project?