^^^This is true. I want everyone to get along or at least be civil to one another. Whats the point in being hostile or a douche to another? People rarely change. But I think everyone should get along in the "moment" and respect each others boundaries. And if you don't like certain people's personalities then ignore them. Unless confrontation is unavoidable, then one quick, brutal "crushing"/ airing of their insecurities is enough to get your point across. But I hate endless drama, it messes with my moods.
My desire for social haramony is self serving. I'm like a litmus for human emotion. I have a hyper sensitivity to facial expressions, mannerisms, and motives. I've bluntly told people what I thought they were up to, when I got a bad feeling about their future actions....and they just had this wide-eyed look of horror that I could see through them. I hate "knowing" people are going to do bad stuff. I hate being able to see through people's bull crap. But I hate it even more when people believe I'm too stupidly "nice" to know what they are up to. It's just the idealist in me I want to believe that people will do the right thing. But even when you make it impossible for some people to do the wrong thing, they still find a way screw it up or try to screw some else over.
When "the group" is in harmony and I really get a chance to understand people, I am feeling sooo good inside. It sends good vibrations through my soul. Now, I can act as crazy or silly as I want. If some one is in crisis, oh crAP. I can feel it too. I'm there with them I can empathize. I can't stop thinking about: What if I was in that situation? I feel sick inside. I have to help you.
In general, I don't want to fit in. Most of the time, I feel indifferent to everyone. Everyone gets the same "generic" brand of my niceness. You're only close to an NFJ when they "explode" on you and your still friends afterward. Only people I'm close to see my dark moody/cynical side. I'll be the first person to wander off and disappear by myself. Most of the time, I don't even want to be bothered with people. Unless, I'm giving them advice or trying to help them understand themselves. Otherwise, I like to be left alone.
(Except on that rare occasion, i meet someone so fascinating I have to be around them---ENFP
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