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That's so ironic though, isn't it? He is showing the most weakness in his ability to do his job right now. Surely he must see that he is neglecting things? It's not like he's stupid. I've juked out ideas with him in the past and made things happen. Now he just avoids my ideas or finds some excuse.
I suppose it may seem he is treating me like I'm someone 'weaker', but I really hope he knows better and that the issue is something else. I at least would like to believe that in the past 8 years I have proven my value, and the sacrifices I have made did not go unnoticed. But if they did, yeah, probably better to move on then.
Sounds in a way like a failing marriage. The marriage works great for a while, but then one day there’s an intangible shift in circumstances or attitude, and suddenly the old formula doesn’t work anymore. One partner is in deep denial, and the other partner is loaded down with an unfair burden and tearing his/her hair out.
So maybe try to think in those terms when you confront your brother. (Any way you can engage a third party to act as “marriage counselor†between you two?) And accept the possibility that you may eventually have to seek a divorce. It may not be in your power to resolve whatever problems have led to your brother's shift in attitude. Shit happens, and you just have to cut your losses and walk away.