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Ne doesn't equal paranoia but it's inherent in it when it happens. Name a paranoid schizophrenic who isn't entertaining different non-surface level connections and possibilities, they're just believing the wrong ones. Nothing about Ne means the interpretations have to be true.
INTJs and INFJs are so much more tethered to reality.
LOL, I must disgaree. They look more tethered to reality, but Ni seems very conspiracy oriented and Ni can spin a massive web of very crazy things...
yes it is
"what will my friends think?"
"oh no! was I too mean?"
"does he hate me?"
"he probably thinks I'm avoiding him?"
"is she alright?"
"what if something horrible happened to him!"
"will it hurt him if I do this?"
Fe users say stuff like this all the time. unbalanced FJs are extremely paranoid about people's feelings and well being
^^Some of the above is very typical of enfp paranoia, but it tends to be more self-centric as in "everybody hates me". It swells up until they go off on somebody. ESFPs do this too, but I think Ne serves as an amplifier and makes it worse, causing enfps to sometimes be over reactive. It looks like hypersensitivity to perceived critique.
I suspect part of it is exacerbated by pure Fe blindness. We cant see the social boundaries and rules we should be playing by and thus end up a bit outcast, not really "getting the joke" or seeing the "obvious rules". At that point, already feeling down on oneself and rejected, it becomes a bit easy to read into other's subtle actions and words and assume negative intent.
At 12, I would actually respond, by 15 I just blocked it with a sullen wall, still assuming others didnt like me, but not caring.
By about 19, I had figured out I was not getting the full message and was reading way too much into things, thus now days just tune it out totally.
The plus side is that I am not a batshit crazy, neurotic, hypersenstive enfp...
Well I am, but all of that stays in my head and doesnt spill into my IRL interactions very often.
For example:
at 15:
"Bob isnt talking to me. I thought he was my friend, but he is acting sort of odd today and hasnt said hi and now he is talking to susan. i bet he likes susan more than me. Well, fuck bob as I didnt want to be his friend anyways. I am gonna go tell him that right now..."
now at 34:
"Bob seems different. Maybe I did something? Meh, if I did and it's important, he'll let me know as most likely it is something else going on in his life. I am not the center of Bob's world" I may still be a bit anxious, but I never act on it.
When in the right mode, I am totally immune to the critique of others. In those times, I also dont have any of these neurotic thoughts at all. the assumption is one of Te directness-if there is an issue-the other person will tell me. This is actually a very healthy place for me to be in, and 95% of the time it is the correct place (given I am pretty careful about inconviencing and hurting others already). The last 5% of the time, I am ignoring subtle unhappiness from others, but since I cant tell if I am reading into the situation, to stay reasonable, I just ignore most all of it. I realize it is a place of false self security, but since every other type gets to build their own psychological defense mechanisms, I feel entitled to utilize my own.
can't speak for the other users, but I don't ever have thoughts like that. it would be nice if I did sometimes actually.
Maybe you do what I do. you remind me of some of the older enfp men I know, stronger Te users. i wouldnt call it narcisstic to be honest. It is self centric, in that it may prevent external feedback from reaching you, however balanced by internal care for others and a strong adherence to your own values, I wouldnt say it is unhealthy.