Provoker
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- Joined
- Feb 4, 2008
- Messages
- 252
- MBTI Type
- INTJ
I've gotten to know this certain ESFP and I've come to the conclusion that we're worlds apart. Besides being the complete antithesis of an INTJ, what I find most frustrating is the S factor. Incidentally, I don't speak sensor and this person certainly doesn't speak the language of intuition. In fact, every time I teach her a few new words of intuition (to use a metaphor) she says the most irrelevant sensor thing ever - to the extent that I wonder if there is anything turning in her brain. I was walking on campus with her the other day at night and explaining how the social sciences are quite abstract compared to hard sciences and then she wasn't responding to anything I was saying so I commented on the weather and said "It's really nice out tonight" and she said "wow that was delayed" (because I didn't say it until I finished conveying the concept I was discussing). This was just one incident of many where I finish a long silioquy and she interjects with sensor talk. It's like talking to a 5 year old some times. It seems to me that this person registers nothing in the abstract and simply only responds to things that are concrete and in the moment. Thus, at any given time if I explain something she will not register the big picture nor the essence - she will only register words that trigger concrete things. Keeping in mind that I'm 84% intuitive and 90% thinking (according to several tests) after explaining something she will only register about 15% of it. If I shove in a really concrete and picturesque word that will trigger a thought in her to the exclusion of everything else. On the other hand, she will start on about so and so in the club or some small talk and I immediately zone out (as I don't want to waste my brain listening to meaningless stories when I could be working through problems in my head). Have any of you had similar experiences?