I am a 33 year old INFJ woman , 2 months ago, met an 40 year old INTP man online. We bonded and connected deeply on how we both are tired of having overly intellectual relationships and are eager to find someone who is truly compassionate, honest and has a great soul. During this time, he was less INTP and more emotional than even me!! we talked about poetry, philosophy... The connection was extraordinary to the extent that he even confessed his love for me when he seemed sincere and pure..... I felt the same but remained more in control of emotions. but have to say despite having romantic relationships in the past ,never felt this way....He is a physicist and is granted a multi million dollar for a project and has a crazy work hours and is under tremendous stress. A few days after the initial meeting on line, while working late hours at lab, he had an heart attack for which I begged him via phone to seek medical help for, as he was trying to minimize the chest pain!! He finally called and was hospitalized for 2 days. The day after his health scare, he said on the phone ( while shouting) that he can't do this..... continue this....... apologized that he is an ass hole for hurting me... I was really sad, and we both cried like teenagers and I said I would like to be a part of his life even as a friend. He left the country for a month and when he came back, called me, we met..... The connection was incredibly intense on emotional , spiritual, as well as intellectual, and physical level.. We didn’t have sex but kissed... He left the country and once again said he will be back in 4 months .. promised to call as soon as he can. when I called him 10 days later, he stated that he will call in 20 days and when he did, he gave me some update about his project..... and that he will be back in 4 months... and I asked him "if he had missed me?"... this is when (similar to the day after his heart attack), he became anxious , stating that he "does not miss me and in fact , he does not love anyone and he wants to be alone!...... But what has been the most hurtful is when he refused to even explain the LOGIC behind his sudden and bizzare change of heart.... I tried to remain as calm as I possibly could, and asked him to at least email, but he refused.... I am very sad not only because of the ending but mainly because now I am questioning the sincerity of his feelings... As an INFJ, (and therapist!!), I have been a great judge of people... I really Need inputs from all, especially INTP men... Thanks
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