jamjam
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- Feb 10, 2008
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- INFJ
so i been into this girl in one of my classes. although i have talked about her to my therapist, i feel like procrastinating from prepping for my finals, and vent about it here.
i am a film student, and i feel my infj traits are the reasons why i want to be a filmmaker. in one of my academic classes, where all the majors get to sit in a class together, there is a small little jewish girl in there that i have been drawn to. but i wasnt interested in her until around our midterms (about 5 weeks ago). just from one little observation, i was intrigued. not only was i for some reason intrigued by her buying beef jerky in the vending machine, i found it funny, yet awesome that when her beef jerky got stuck in the machine, she climbed on top and started to jump on the thing until it came down. from then on, i was hooked.
ever since, i have been trying to approach her, hoping she would know i am interested in being more than just a friend.
but the thing is i havent made the actual move to ask her out or have actually voiced out my interest. I feel like i had many chances--especially when she approached me the other day (outside of class) and we talked for like an hour. my reasoning, or excuses, for not asking her out yet, is because i didnt want to ask someone out in class and if it doesnt go well, she or i, wouldnt feel so awkward for the remainder of the term. another reason is, although we have been interacting more often than before, i still want and have not yet believed, some sort of sign to feel she is in to me. i know that i wont really know until i actually ask her out, or let her know in plain words, i am interested.
but there are also other things--things about her personality. though she goes to an art school, she has personally acknowledged that she is more of a scientist at heart. i guess in short, i percieved her to be a very logical and analytical type of person--but also i feel (analyzing our conversations) that she might lack a certain sensitivity--something i personally need. sorry if im rambling and/or making no sense.
but anyways, im still drawn to her. it has been a few long years since i have been interested in anyone, and so it has resulted in me feeling a bit green in the dating game. yes, i am feeling a bit insecure. overall, i intend to ask her out, or at the least, let her know my feelings. i think i need to do it more for myself anyways--i have been battling with myself about self-confidence in all aspects of my life--i think this is one of the demons i have to overcome.
so let's say i do make my move...
anyone have any suggestions? tips? i would also love any helpful activity suggestions for dates--ive never really been a dinner and a movie type of guy--i always prefer some sort of activity to do. selfishly, i would feel more comfortable with the idea that eyes are not always on me.
i am a film student, and i feel my infj traits are the reasons why i want to be a filmmaker. in one of my academic classes, where all the majors get to sit in a class together, there is a small little jewish girl in there that i have been drawn to. but i wasnt interested in her until around our midterms (about 5 weeks ago). just from one little observation, i was intrigued. not only was i for some reason intrigued by her buying beef jerky in the vending machine, i found it funny, yet awesome that when her beef jerky got stuck in the machine, she climbed on top and started to jump on the thing until it came down. from then on, i was hooked.
ever since, i have been trying to approach her, hoping she would know i am interested in being more than just a friend.
but the thing is i havent made the actual move to ask her out or have actually voiced out my interest. I feel like i had many chances--especially when she approached me the other day (outside of class) and we talked for like an hour. my reasoning, or excuses, for not asking her out yet, is because i didnt want to ask someone out in class and if it doesnt go well, she or i, wouldnt feel so awkward for the remainder of the term. another reason is, although we have been interacting more often than before, i still want and have not yet believed, some sort of sign to feel she is in to me. i know that i wont really know until i actually ask her out, or let her know in plain words, i am interested.
but there are also other things--things about her personality. though she goes to an art school, she has personally acknowledged that she is more of a scientist at heart. i guess in short, i percieved her to be a very logical and analytical type of person--but also i feel (analyzing our conversations) that she might lack a certain sensitivity--something i personally need. sorry if im rambling and/or making no sense.
but anyways, im still drawn to her. it has been a few long years since i have been interested in anyone, and so it has resulted in me feeling a bit green in the dating game. yes, i am feeling a bit insecure. overall, i intend to ask her out, or at the least, let her know my feelings. i think i need to do it more for myself anyways--i have been battling with myself about self-confidence in all aspects of my life--i think this is one of the demons i have to overcome.
so let's say i do make my move...
anyone have any suggestions? tips? i would also love any helpful activity suggestions for dates--ive never really been a dinner and a movie type of guy--i always prefer some sort of activity to do. selfishly, i would feel more comfortable with the idea that eyes are not always on me.