[MENTION=4945]EJCC[/MENTION] [MENTION=22264]jscrothers[/MENTION] [MENTION=17131]Chanaynay[/MENTION] goddamnit why does the forum always have to compel me to talk so much during the times when I am so busy. Anyway, per the discussion earlier.
EJCC is correct that my 3 aspects are significantly more apparent in person. Part of the reason is, I sort of regard my 3 side as something that needs to be hidden from others. My 1 regards it as "imperfect and not to be displayed" and on the forum it's easy to do. In person, I tend to lose awareness of it, much to my chagrin. In essence, I am in constant fear it's going to make me seem like a conceited egotistical know-it-all prick. When I slip and realize people think that I feel REALLY horrible and slink back for extended periods. A large part of it is I am innately really talkative, and if I have thoughts, facts, advice, I have to resist the urge to spout it out FAR more often than push myself to spit it out. Too much of this, and you look like a dick. On the forum in essence what you're seeing is me having a more proper filter, as well as very reduced frequencies in situations that make my 3 sides show up. 3's tend to be composed, and in person I am very composed, despite being emotional/expressive. I'm just talkative. It... doesn't make any sense to me to stay quiet on things going wrong. It's a huge, huge compulsion that I have to resist. I tend to care less about the image that particular thing causes because I see it as for the greater good.
My image is pretty damn important to me. The thing is though, how I care about my image depends on people I am around. If I am around people I like and respect, oh hell yeah image matters. People I don't, I don't care. Further, as much as I LOTHE admitting it, my status (perceived and actual) matters A TON. I get bent out of shape if my status is not high enough, and I will actively seek to raise it to a satisfying level. Because I am a core 1 though, my reasons for doing this is it allows me to have a larger impact and effect on improvement and fixing the things I am around. It's not for the status itself (though it is partially, I love being important), but because status is useful. If high status and image wasn't useful, and if I had no substance to back it up, I doubt I'd enjoy it as I'd feel like a fraud.
As for the ENFJ bit, JScrothers analysis is correct. ENFJ's are inheriently rather authoratative by default. I have yet to meet one who doesn't have that streak. It's just not "classic" authority as people think of it. We want social order. Though mine appears more classic because I am a 1w2. Because of my tritype along with this, power structures are HUGE for me. Whenever I meet a new group of people, one of the first things I'll start doing (without actively deciding to do so) is figure out who is in what position. What are their statuses. If the power structure is explicit (president, vp, all that stuff), then I'll link the two together. I started doing this at an early age because it allows me to figure out how to approach and treat people appropriately (as appropriate treatment giving is not an innate skill for me). If you understand power structures, you know how to work with it.
As for why I seem to always agree with the mods on the forum, it's largely because I am a former mod on another forum. I know this shit. I've been through a lot of shit. Because of my intolerance for rebels without a clue (which is because of my type), I get uppity over it. I rarely if ever see a former mod side with dissents, unless the dissent is valid. Even so, I don't always 100% agree with mods. I do disagree somewhat frequently, I just seldom voice it, because it won't be useful or helpful towards anything. The only time I voice that sort of dissent is if I think it will actually be helpful and useful.