Well, that's kind of what I meant -- a business relationship. But beyond that, friendship is ultimately pointless.
I know that loneliness is caused by lack of close relationships, but it is best to repress these feelings, because acting out on loneliness and seeking connections is a form of cowardice that should be avoided in the same way as acting out on sexual desires.
Whenever I come across someone who tries to get close to me, I have to avoid him/her, because in all probability, (A) he/she finds me useful in someway and intends to take advantage of me or (B) he/she is desperate in seeking out connections, and in the case of B, the person should just kill themselves for being so insecure.
Theoretically, I find nothing wrong with someone using others for a strategic purpose, because it's ultimately the other person's fault for letting that someone take advantage of them. But I, on the other hand, am careful in not letting people control me.
And besides, aren't NTs supposed to be detach themselves from emotion?
What do you view is the purpose of life? I've encountered this issue before; we discovered that we saw differently due to how we saw human life.
I think humans are relational by nature; we're meant to be in relationships. I think we're all unique, and surely this looks different in every situation, but I believe that I'm a deeper, more substantial, more intelligent, more caring, more genuine human being when I'm a part of satisfying relationships (and I'm not referring to romantic ones, but they certainly count).
These views are what I've deduced in my 20 years on this earth. But to note our differences, I am a) female and b) a Christian. Which probably explains our differences.
Regardless, you don't think it's a part of human nature to connect with others? What do you want out of life?
I mean that very deeply and seriously: what do you want? Because to be honest, maybe my Ni is just currently non-functional... but the worlds I imagine without soulful connections are just superficial and nothing I want to associate myself with.
Maybe you don't feel the need to connect with others. I am not out to say you should, if you don't. But I'm pretty sure it's pretty rare to not feel the need to connect with other humans. It's deeply ingrained in me. I don't need quantity so much as quality.
But I do think that it's more likely you
a) were hurt by someone who rejected you/put you down/degraded you that you had trusted before and you've decided to learn from that error
or
b)your need to be seen as autonomous and independent (from your original nature-driven aspect, and on top of that, your reading and self-identification with the INTJ descriptions which only reinforce that) outweighs your currently-surpressed desire to connect
So, certainly correct me if I'm wrong, but if you don't feel the need to connect with others, you're either a) in self-preservation mode or b) immaturely rejecting this need.
But maybe I'm wrong. Do let me know.