Crazydaisy
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- Jul 27, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- ISFJ
HI everybody,
This is my first post on the forum. For the past while I've been agonizing over whether I'm an ISFJ or an ESFJ (I'm male).
I'll go through a bunch of my preferences and hopefully someone can help me out...I'd really appreciate it!
Ok: My father is an ISTJ, and my mother is an ESFJ.
I know for sure that I have a strong F preference, likely a slight to moderate J preference, and also likely a moderate S preference. I'm really not that intuitive (my ENFP best friend constantly tells me revelations about people and has crazy abstract ideas about things like auras and energy that I don't really get...haha).
The biggest thing for me is whether I am introverted (primary introverted sensing, secondary extroverted feeling) or extroverted (primary extroverted feeling, secondary introverted sensing).
I'm just about to turn 21 years old.
I care deeply about what others think of me, and sometimes judge myself based on others opinions'. I REALLY want other people to like me...sometimes to a fault as I can get down on myself if they don't.
I care very deeply about my close friends, and find comfort and security in them. I also really like having lots of acquaintances and sometimes wish I had more friends. This can be a problem for me as I also have a bit of social anxiety somtimes (the need to perform and to be liked which bothers me when I don't meet it)
In first year university residence, I was a social butterfly on my floor and the one above me. Sometimes I can lose contact with friends who I haven't talk to in a while, and I'm not the best at keeping in contact with people. I don't have a HUGE circle of friends (I have about 7-8 friends I would consider close to very close), and a little wider circle of acquaintances.
If I'm having a good time, (and usually when I'm drunk), I can be the life of the party, talking to everybody, doing ridiculous things. If I can relax a bit and have a good time in a social situation, it energizes me. If I'm not having a good time and feel self-conscious, then social situations drain me and I can't wait to get out of them. I like spending time by myself, but not too much time or I get lonely/bored. I can't imagine living a life not surrounded by close friends and family who I can goof off with and truly be myself.
My close friends would likely describe me as very caring and loving, a bit of a goof, sensitive, and I can be a little b!tch when I'm irritated (although I VERY rarely experience anger). And sexually, I'm a total horn-dog, lol.
When it comes to expressing my feelings, I don't do it naturally, although I've gotten better at it. I'll never express my innermost feelings to people I don't know well, but to friends and family that I know well, I find I can do this more easily (but most times my feelings aren't that convoluted that I need to do this often). When I warm up to people a bit, I'm easily talkative and goofy, but when first meeting people, I tend to be quieter and more self-conscious.
Around my close friends I can be quite gregarious, loud, and obnoxious, and I love going out and doing things when I'm with friends who I know and like (eg. going to restaurants, movies, laser tag, paintball, parties).
I recently went into business school, and at the beginning I was excited at the prospect of meeting new people, going to parties etc. As the year went on, I started to get self conscious, I judged myself negatively compared to other people, and wished that I was more popular. Eventually this led to me feeling depressed. I started isolating myself, and started irrationally obsessing about my future and worried that I would never succeed in life. For a couple of weeks I was pretty depressed and started getting anxiety (which I had never really ever experienced before except in social situations sometimes). I got some meds and am only just coming out of it.
Doing tests, I've tested both ESFJ and ISFJ, but it's usually near 50/50 for E and I. I tested a stronger I when I did this test when I was in the midst of depression (no surprise there).
Some other info that might help: I'm better at math than at english (like concrete ideas better). I'm pretty athletic, and a good tennis and baseball player (I enjoy physical activity). I have a tendency to be a bit lazy sometimes, and not follow through on things (but I always finish stuff on time, and I'm NEVER late for appointments). I'm a bit gullible and have a tendency to believe everything I read.
I love the TV shows Lost, the office. The movies Fight club, royal tenenbaums. Personally, I think I'm ESFJ, and I get worried sometimes when I think I might be ISFJ (I want to be an E!!!). How dumb is that!?!
I really love people, but when feeling self conscious or down, I'll avoid social situations (with people I don't know well) like the plague. I'm also not a huge fan of small talk (or should I certain types of small talk). For example people at work talking about what McDonalds is like in the UK compared to Canada, or questions like "What's your favourite condiment?". I mean please. However, when I feel people are being sincere and expressing their feelings or their real personality somehow, I enjoy it.
PLEASE help me out, I'd REALLY Appreciate it. I know this post was a bit long but THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!
This is my first post on the forum. For the past while I've been agonizing over whether I'm an ISFJ or an ESFJ (I'm male).
I'll go through a bunch of my preferences and hopefully someone can help me out...I'd really appreciate it!
Ok: My father is an ISTJ, and my mother is an ESFJ.
I know for sure that I have a strong F preference, likely a slight to moderate J preference, and also likely a moderate S preference. I'm really not that intuitive (my ENFP best friend constantly tells me revelations about people and has crazy abstract ideas about things like auras and energy that I don't really get...haha).
The biggest thing for me is whether I am introverted (primary introverted sensing, secondary extroverted feeling) or extroverted (primary extroverted feeling, secondary introverted sensing).
I'm just about to turn 21 years old.
I care deeply about what others think of me, and sometimes judge myself based on others opinions'. I REALLY want other people to like me...sometimes to a fault as I can get down on myself if they don't.
I care very deeply about my close friends, and find comfort and security in them. I also really like having lots of acquaintances and sometimes wish I had more friends. This can be a problem for me as I also have a bit of social anxiety somtimes (the need to perform and to be liked which bothers me when I don't meet it)
In first year university residence, I was a social butterfly on my floor and the one above me. Sometimes I can lose contact with friends who I haven't talk to in a while, and I'm not the best at keeping in contact with people. I don't have a HUGE circle of friends (I have about 7-8 friends I would consider close to very close), and a little wider circle of acquaintances.
If I'm having a good time, (and usually when I'm drunk), I can be the life of the party, talking to everybody, doing ridiculous things. If I can relax a bit and have a good time in a social situation, it energizes me. If I'm not having a good time and feel self-conscious, then social situations drain me and I can't wait to get out of them. I like spending time by myself, but not too much time or I get lonely/bored. I can't imagine living a life not surrounded by close friends and family who I can goof off with and truly be myself.
My close friends would likely describe me as very caring and loving, a bit of a goof, sensitive, and I can be a little b!tch when I'm irritated (although I VERY rarely experience anger). And sexually, I'm a total horn-dog, lol.
When it comes to expressing my feelings, I don't do it naturally, although I've gotten better at it. I'll never express my innermost feelings to people I don't know well, but to friends and family that I know well, I find I can do this more easily (but most times my feelings aren't that convoluted that I need to do this often). When I warm up to people a bit, I'm easily talkative and goofy, but when first meeting people, I tend to be quieter and more self-conscious.
Around my close friends I can be quite gregarious, loud, and obnoxious, and I love going out and doing things when I'm with friends who I know and like (eg. going to restaurants, movies, laser tag, paintball, parties).
I recently went into business school, and at the beginning I was excited at the prospect of meeting new people, going to parties etc. As the year went on, I started to get self conscious, I judged myself negatively compared to other people, and wished that I was more popular. Eventually this led to me feeling depressed. I started isolating myself, and started irrationally obsessing about my future and worried that I would never succeed in life. For a couple of weeks I was pretty depressed and started getting anxiety (which I had never really ever experienced before except in social situations sometimes). I got some meds and am only just coming out of it.
Doing tests, I've tested both ESFJ and ISFJ, but it's usually near 50/50 for E and I. I tested a stronger I when I did this test when I was in the midst of depression (no surprise there).
Some other info that might help: I'm better at math than at english (like concrete ideas better). I'm pretty athletic, and a good tennis and baseball player (I enjoy physical activity). I have a tendency to be a bit lazy sometimes, and not follow through on things (but I always finish stuff on time, and I'm NEVER late for appointments). I'm a bit gullible and have a tendency to believe everything I read.
I love the TV shows Lost, the office. The movies Fight club, royal tenenbaums. Personally, I think I'm ESFJ, and I get worried sometimes when I think I might be ISFJ (I want to be an E!!!). How dumb is that!?!
I really love people, but when feeling self conscious or down, I'll avoid social situations (with people I don't know well) like the plague. I'm also not a huge fan of small talk (or should I certain types of small talk). For example people at work talking about what McDonalds is like in the UK compared to Canada, or questions like "What's your favourite condiment?". I mean please. However, when I feel people are being sincere and expressing their feelings or their real personality somehow, I enjoy it.
PLEASE help me out, I'd REALLY Appreciate it. I know this post was a bit long but THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!