Does this mean that INTPs will appear more outwardly emotional? Are they really dealing with the outside world using Fe (implies some intent), or simply venting it so it does not stay inside?
They resent the outside world as much as any introvert. In this case, they resent the irrational emotionality of society, even as they ironically crave the approval of those whom they respect. INTJs don't crave that sort of approval, in my experience.
What were you searching for exactly? Does your dancing avocation fit in here at all?
Here's the thing, Fi is kind of like Ti, where the whole problem is that while one has standards and principles, one is stuck in Douglas Adams land, certain that there is an ultimate answer, but not even sure what the question that would provide that answer might be.
Thus, I didn't know what I was searching for, and I didn't find it until I stopped "looking." (I.e., I had to look "differently.") I know this sounds like a crock. It's really just a "letting go" of trying to make everything fit into the INTJ (Ni+Te) mold. It has long been well-established that the tertiary and inferior functions tend to express themselves negatively, because they're unconscious and not well-understood by oneself. The "letting go" is actually the attempt to consciously express one's tertiary and inferior in a positive way. (Keep in mind that I'm translating
into MBTI/Jung; I am not using MBTI/Jung to derive these conclusions.)
It has a lot to do with the dancing, for me.
It took having a good friend to help hold my hand, so to speak, and a desire to tread where I had never ventured before. That was enough to get me into lessons, and even then I did so only in a limited fashion. Then there was the first social dance I had decided to go to. I drove there, and parked in the parking lot. I sat in the parking lot for 30 minutes, chickened out, and drove home.
In spite of that experience, here I am, 4.5 years later, and not only do I dance several hours each week, and go to a couple of social dances each week (it used to be 3-5 per week, but then I got a girlfriend who doesn't dance, so I must allocate my time). And on top of that, in the usual way that INTJs tend to become extremely competent in whatever arena they focus upon, I'm rather good at dancing, and find that I can intimidate other dancers with my skill, even though I don't mean to ...
... and interestingly, that's where the Fi steps in. I just kind of *glow* at them, sort of willing them to let go and have fun and not worry about how good one is.
I remember one such girl, who ended up becoming a very good dancer, very much in demand, with whom I danced often when she was just beginning. She was so very, very self-conscious. I told her that I was happy to dance with her, even though she was so obviously new and a bit clumsy. I also told her that all she owed me was that when she finally became a salsa diva, that she would also be kind and dance with the new dancers, because that's how we all start.
She eventually became very much a salsa diva. And one night I asked her to dance, and she said that she'd already been asked by someone else. I replied, OK, that's fine, but if he doesn't show up in a minute or so, there's no reason to waste the song.
She replied to me, "But <uumlau>, he's a new dancer! Remember when you said to me that I should dance with the new dancers? I
have to dance with him!"
She went and danced with him, and later on I got a wonderful dance with her. I've rarely felt so proud.
See how that answers all sorts of questions you never thought to ask?